Dave, you would probably want to
feed me then. stress does funny things to metabolism. At my lowest I was 98 lbs, I've managed to get back up to about 112 last time I checked. I heard that since fruits and carbohydrate foods tend to ripen in the fall when animals needed to put weight on for the winter that is what I should be eating. I shied away from bread and pasta for health reasons eating mainly meats, fats and veggies, so including more fruit and starchy vegetables has helped.
I still have stress but it's different now, more like what everyone is going through with these changing times. Once I decided what my new purpose was the old things stopped bothering me so much. I had become the family caregiver, taking care of both my parents and a step parent until they passed away over the course of 10 years. Their comfort and well being was my only purpose for most of that time and it took me almost 3 years to re-discover what I wanted to do for myself. What a helpless confusing time that was. I still fall into that some but it gets a little less severe with every passing day.
I think not having a purpose is about the worst stress a person could have. It makes me wonder about those people who give-up and give-in, how did they lose their purpose? I was just a hair's breath from the same fate.
Permaculture woke me up and at first I was going to do all that grand important stuff all newbee's expect to do. Over time and some serious down-to-earth thinking brought me to what seems like a workable solution. Since I am "Starting from zero, my next step is 1, and my goal is 5. Figuring 100 will be easier to attain from there." (Sounds like a good temporary motto.)
I'm in a limbo type of situation, I might lose my urban home so I put it up for sale to stop the foreclosure. If it sells I'll have to find a new place to live, if it doesn't I have to be in a position to make sure I don't lose too much in the process. So I'm going to try raising plants from seed and cuttings. Starting mid-winter though limits a lot of the cuttings that I could have sold in the spring. On top of that they have to be movable "just in case". I am creative so there is a way, and that is the way I'll do it. I'm learning to trust myself to know what is the right forward step, even if I don't see it until my foot is in the air.
Not everything is
Permaculture, but it is growing things, and talking about permaculture. If I end up keeping my urban home I will apply Permaculture here and hopefully spread it to my neighbors. If I have to move, one of my options is moving to my brothers property in Missouri, he will insist I get a regular job (not that I haven't been trying here for the last 2 + years) but I can apply permaculture to his property in small ways until he sees how it works. If I end up with some money out of the house I'll have other options, either to buy a small portion of his property, or find a place that I want to work with, which may turn out to be the most satisfying for me. Urban or in the country, what ever calls to me at the time, I have ideas for both. Where ever I finally
land will be the right place for me to be.
At present my job is selling Roses to couples in the bars on Friday and Saturday nights, it's not easy, nor is it profitable in any real sense, but it is work, I really enjoy putting small arrangements together, and I enjoy the happiness I see when someone receives the
gift. It forces me to get out of the house and mingle with people. A friend suggested this to me about 3 weeks ago, he didn't expect me to do it. At first I saw every reason not to do it, all valid, then the "what if's" started in a good way, "what if it works?" Well it does work, and it's satisfying. I don't know if I can sustain myself on this, yet, but I am better off than I was. Only time will tell.
People seem to get that image of Liza, in "My Fair Lady" before she was schooled in the finery of the upper
class. I had that image too and was a little embarrassed that I had to stoop to that level. Well I have a new respect for that Liza. She may have come off as a street urchin but I have to say it takes gut's to go around selling Roses, and they aren't cheap, plus many places won't let you in to
sell your Roses. So the driving is long distance between stops, therefore time is limited. But where I can get in to sell my Roses I am the
Rose Lady now, and I like that.
So today Roses, tomorrow Rose bushes, among other plants and things. I'm going to make myself an herb spiral in the front
yard maybe someone will hire me to make one for them. I am growing the extra herbs for that opportunity. I have a long way to go just to get to that, but I will probably sooner than I expect.
It is hard to go forward on a foundation of uncertainty, but knowing what my purpose is, "Saving My Trees and Earths Soil" makes a pretty good stabilizer.
I really don't mean to go into long stories at the outset of a post, but you wouldn't believe the amount of stuff I didn't say, my head is so full of potential stories. Sometimes I can even write one that might make a good blog post, usually it's rambling like this one though.
Thank's for reading.
Evelyn