I tried the no poo for months, also tried making my own, using all sorts of combinations. What works best for me, and what I now use with great success is Aloe Vera and Honey. I mix the two together and wash my hair with the rinse. My hair is incredibly soft and very healthy, I could be imagining but it also feels like it is slowly getting thicker.
When possible I hang my clothes inside my house rather than use a dryer (outside hanging isn't possible) but occasionally I do have to use the dryer. I was going to make some wool dryer balls because I read that they help reduce your drying time and help with static. Does anyone have any experience with them? Are they helpful? If it makes a difference I make my own laundry detergent and don't use dryer sheets or anything of that nature. Thanks!