My son's current reaction to dogs, or any animal he finds scary, is to run around frantically screaming and even lie down on the ground in panic. Basically, everything that one SHOULD NOT do when encountering a scary animal. We've been working really hard to
(1) Train him to see when an animal is aggressive and when it is nice
(2) Teach him to be calm and walk away slowly without glaring at the animal or turning his back
(3) If #2 fails, teach him to wave his arms to make himself look big and yell at the dog in an authorative voice, not a scared one.
Animals sense fear. I was taught this at a young age. So I always try to act unafraid and calm my emotions to ones that aren't frightened, even if I am terrified that a dog is going to bite my kids. It works. We have some aggressive heel-biters nearby that sometimes come out and bark viciously and follow us for a block. Lots of our neighbors have been bit by these dogs. We have not. We stay calm, we keep our eyes forward, we keep walking, and we talk in non-fearful tones. Now the dogs don't even follow us and often don't even come out to bark at us.
I also never carry a weapon, not even pepper spray. THis isn't for any "I'm not scared of animals" reason, it's because I'm more afraid of accidently firing it or having my kids get a hold of it when we're out and about. It's the same reason I would never want a gun when I was a school teacher. The risk of an attacker is much less than the risk of it misfiring in my untrained hands.
That being said, if someone is trained with a firearm and knows that their kids won't get a hold of it, then I see no reason to not carry it "just in case." It doesn't hurt anything for that trained person to carry it, and there's a chance (albeit small) that they might need it to protect themselves.
I have never shaved my legs. Not even once! I do have light, thin hairs, so that probably helps. But, really, the reason I never started was that as I teenager I heard all the time from older ladies how they wished they'd never started shaving. It seemed like a big hassle, so I told myself I'd never shave unless my future husband cared about stuff like. Fast-forward a few years, and I met my now-husband and told him about my unshaved legs. He thought it was the coolest thing ever, and hoped I'd never shave them. I found a keeper alright!
I do however shave my armpits. I tried for months to not shave them, but they start feeling uncomfortable after a month of growth. I just don't like the feel of long hair under there, so I shave them every week or so. But, since it's a small area, I've used the same razor for over 111 years (I bought a new one, and it got as dull as my first after about 7 uses, so I went back to my old one!)
We have trac phone that we bought over a year ago for a long drive. The minutes have all run out, BUT, the thing takes better pictures than the digital camera we bought (which cost even more than the trac phone--go figure), so we use the phone as our camera and that's the only reason we still have the thing!
I think we need one of these. My husband recently got his first chainsaw...he's never used one before, and it's a little electric. We've got a large pile of red alders to cut up. They're 2-7inches in diameter. They LOVE to roll when he's cutting them with the chainsaw. He hasn't discovered a way to stabilize the logs when sawing. They're all in a nice pile, facing the same direction, but he doesn't know how to keep them from rolling (any tip/stricks for stabalizing logs when cutting them in a pile? I see my dad doing it all the time, but I've never inspected his technique.) So far, my husband has been sticking them into a cinderblock so the cinderblock holds it. He cuts both sides of the log, chucks the cut piece, into the wheelbarrow for me to stack, and then puts the log back into the cinderblock to cut again. He's bending quite a bit doing this, and since the logs are light and small, I'm thinking a sawbuck would speed things up?
My property taxes, on 5 acres with a manufactured home, are $4,256. We bought the place for $200,000 6 years ago. Now the estimated value is $324,000, and my taxes will be higher next year.
My parents have 1 acre, and they're 30 minutes closer to Seattle, and their house is worth just over half a million, and their property taxes are $7,800. Just four years ago, their house was worth $200,000 less!
My brother is closer into the suburbs, on 1/4 acre, with a house valued at $450,000, and they have $7,000 in property taxes every year.
I'm glad we have good schools, libraries, fire departments and roads. But, it sure would be nice to not have to spend so large a portion of our income on property taxes!
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Let's hear it ladies. And let's break it down according to age. If a guy is 25 and he post some photos showing that he's in good shape, is that a negative?
Now suppose that he's 54 like I am, where much of the competition are flabby guys with man boobs. If I were still looking, would it work to my advantage, to display the results of my efforts, if I gave a little blurb explaining just how much time I put into it.
I'm 33 years old. I think the problem with these sorts of pictures is that they are all about the muscle. The feel like a cheep pick-up-line: something done JUST to get a girl, which is a turn off. Now, if there were pictures that showed a guy using his strength in useful or fun ways, without trying to show off, that might be better. A guy in a normal, not-baggy shirt in a "candid" picture, like climbing a tree or swinging an ax or pushing a broken-down car is about 100 times more attractive than a topless shirt of a guy posing in front of a camera. Now that I'm married, I love pictures where my husband's strength is featured, but I would have been totally turned off if he's sent me pictures when we were dating. The more candid the picture is, the better, in my opinion. It's like saying, "Here I am, doing something I believe in/am good at/enjoy doing." The woman likes seeing what you're interested/passionate/strong in, and then ALSO notices that, "Oh wow, he's hot, too." I picture that is just showing off muscle says, "You want me because I'm Hot" to which the woman thinks, "If all you're about is trying desperately to look hot to get laid, I don't want anything to do with you."
Of course, I'm not a "normal" woman, so I don't know how much of my advice applies to "normal" women...but then, I'm figuring guys here on permies are probably not looking for "normal" women. So, perhaps my opinion is still helpful.
I married more of a Luke Skywalker than a Hans Solo. I always thought Hans Solo was a bit of a jerk. I don't like jerks. But, I do know how many women have the urge to go for "bad guys," especially bad guys they feel they can "tame." The, I-killed-a-lion-and-was-going-to-go-fight-another-guy-for-his-lion-but-you-told-me-that-wasn't-nice,-so-I'm-not. They want all of the fierceness and strength, but they want it supporting and working with them, rather than doing whatever it wants all the time. What this ends up looking like in todays society is that they want jerks that they think they can turn into not-jerk...which doesn't work most of the time. BUT, I'm thinking a guy can show strength and daring without being a jerk, and they might be as successful at "getting a girl."
I think it also depends on what kind of girl a guy is looking for. There ARE girls that like nice, dependable guys. These girls are a bit more rare, and not often part of normal dating scenes. Being a jerk will almost certainly turn these girls away, while it might attract the other type of girl. The question is, who do you want to be with?
As for the amount of muscle tone on a guy, here's a useful picture:
I think it's generally accepted that most women are attracted to something between the 10-20% on that chart. The 6-7% is a little too muscular, but not gross like the 3-4%. The 25% is a bit flabby, but also not gross or off-putting. The 25% is like "Okay, this person has other focuses than being strong, but they don't look unhealthy."
Frankly, when I met my husband, I was 19 and he was 22. He was around the 25% mark. I honestly didn't care one bit about whether or not he was muscular. He was strong, and not too overweight, and had some acne and a great smile. Rather than appearances, I was more interested in whether or not he was nice, liked Jesus, was funny, was weird, and was someone I could talk deeply with. A few years into our marriage, he became all about paleo/primal eating, and he got a lot a lot stronger. He's now somewhere around the 12%, and I think he's hot... but I thought he was hot the whole time he was getting stronger. I'm more interested in him, than in his appearances.
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Since we don't have the spiffy automated title-dubbing working yet, I was told I could just give the title manually. Since Greg has his scavenger hunt done, he is now our very first Pioneer. All hail Greg!
If anyone else notices that they have the scavenger hunt done, just tell me. I'll double-check to see if it's finished, and dub thee also with the Shiny Sword of Pioneering!
In January, we got a spiffy scavenger hunt added to our forum. Writing reviews, making posts, posting pictures and videos, etc, all are things to "check off" on the scavenger hunt. Aaaaaand, those that complete the Scavenger Hunt get the shiny title of "Pioneer." The title is just for fun and to show everyone how awesome you are. (If you're already a Pollinator, you don't get the Pioneer title, though. One title per person!)
Initially, this title was intended to be given out automatically when someone completed the scavenger hunt....but that bit of programming was a bit more complicated that we thought. BUT, I was told I could just give the title manually. So I made it, and it's operational. All you have to do is tell me that you've completed the e scavenger hunt. I'll double-check to see it's finished, and dub thee also with the Shiny Sword of Pioneering!
And, three cheers for Greg Harness, our very first Pioneer...and the one that reminded me to see if I could get this title operational. Thanks, Greg!
I find colorblindness facinating. Women can have all the types of colorblindness, but since red/green (which is the most common) is carried on the X chromosome, and it's "recessive" a woman needs to inherit the colorblindness gene from BOTH her parents, which is pretty rare. A man, however, only has 1 X chromosome, and so only has to inherit the trait from one parent (his mother, of course). So, it's a whole lot more likely that boys will get red/green colorblindness.
I'm curious, Tereza, did the test tell you what type of colorblindness you had, or was it spread over the whole spectrum?
BUT, other types of colorblindess aren't sex-linked at all! The blue/green colorblindness that my husband's sister and father have is dominate! So, it only has to be inherited from one parent, AND it's just as likely for a girl to get it as a guy (as evidenced by the fact that my husband is not colorblind, but his sister is.)
A few years back, my neighbor build a 12x12 log well house. He didn't need permits for it, since it was that size. He kept an extra chest freezer in there for storing meat.
Fast-forward a few years, and some new people now own the land. They're still working on getting permits for a house. BUT, I'm pretty sure they're living in the wellhouse. The chinked up the gaps in the logs, and added a hot water heater. I have no idea what else they have in there .
Anyway, if you're going to have a well and a wellhouse on your property, why not make the wellhouse larger and live in it?
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This might work on the south-facing side of the house, but not so much on the other sides? I'm wondering if the angle would be right to get sunlight. I live on a north-facing slope at a northernly latitude, and only get 2-4 hours of sun during the winter--and that's across my whole property. My house gets maybe 2. And I don't have any south-facing windows.
But, maybe it'd work for southfacing windows in a cold area that gets lots of sun and sun that reflects off of snow?
I moved a few pots to a new topic. The discussion was getting a bit off the topic of the expense of working of money, and was turning into the ETHICS and politics of not working for money. So, I move the posts to the Cider Press. Please remember, here on permies we always try to be nice and respectful of others ideas, even when we don't agree. That applies to both the cider press as well as the main forums. Thank you!
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I was watching BBC's Victorian farm, and they were opening back up an old chimney that had been blocked off years and years before. The chimney was full of rubble and other junk, probably done to insulate it before they blocked it off. Perhaps a similar thing happened here: they were blocking off an old chimney and tried to fill it as full as they could, even using old clothes to do so?
I've noticed I've gotten rather wordy in my last few dailyishes. Is that a good or bad thing for you guys? I love to ramble and explain, but this dailyish is about YOU readers, not me! What do you like to see?
I've been sending them out about every 1.5 days. Does that fell like a good timespan to you?
I'd love to hear your thoughts on the dailyish!!!
EDIT: Oh! And I forgot to tell you all the reason we do the short URLs rather than the long ones. It's because the long ones sometimes get cut off by mobile phone screens, and then the links don't work! So, I've been trying to be more informative in my writing so you know what the thread is about, even without the title. Is that working well for you?
That pear variety makes me hopeful, Dan! I just hate to have my daughter's tree bear hard, bitter fruit. I want her tree to last and be fruitful and wonderful her whole life, and worry that a cross might be healthy...but really nasty.
Last year, we planted both an Orcas Prune and an Orcas Pear. The pear was specially planted as my daughters birthday tree (I planted an apple on my son's first birthday, and the orcas pear on my daughter's first birthday). But, the trees look sad, especially the Orcas prune. The orcas pear has only grown may 8 inches this year, and it really has never looked too healthy. I REALLY don't want my daughter's tree to die!
I've amended the pear with coffee grounds, prenatal vitamins, duck bedding, comfery leaves, meat and yogurt scraps burred two feet away, as well as bone meal and oyster mushroom slurry. The strawberries and comfery are doing great. The green onions aren't doing the best, but they're hanging on. The area is VERY deeply mulched with woodchips, which had sat for 6-8 months before I planted. The woodchips were there to smother some salmonberries that were growing there previously. This meant the Here's the tree when we planted.
Here's the pear tree now:
And here's a close up of the sad-looking leaves:
The prune tree is in MUCH worse shape, I think. It's leaves are now transparent and mostly brown, with holes where some of the brown/black spots were. I amended the prune with meat scraps, oyster mushrooms, bone meal, and duck bedding. Everything other than the prune tree is flourishing. There's wild and domestic strawberries and sweet cicily, and they all really healthy. This area did used to have an apple tree that died there, due to getting knocked over by the snow. I planted the prune about a foot from the apple, and figured there wouldn't be any problems since they're two separate families of fruit trees.
Anyone know what's wrong with the pear and prune? Is it the same thing? The other tree I ordered from the same nursery was a Sochi tea tree, and died over the winter. I figured at the time that it was due to the cold, but maybe it was related to what's going on with the prune and plum?
As many of you might know, I planted a pear tree for my daughter's 1st birthday. The tree, however, does not look that great. It hasn't grown any more this year, and it has black spots on it's leaves. This is despite amending with coffee grounds, compost, comfery leaves, duck bedding, oyster mushroom slurry and prenatal vitamins. I don't know if it's my soil, or the tree (the plum tree I got from the same nursery looks even sadder).
Anyway, I'm thinking of trying to grow a back-up pear from seed. My mom gave me a bunch of delicious Orcas (European) pears which were pollinated by her Nijisseiki (Asian) pear tree. Both of her trees are really healthy. The pear I planted for my daughter is also an orcas, but not nearly as healthy. My mom lives 30 minutes away, so her trees are also growing in a similar environment.
I'm wondering what the chances of the Orcas x Nijisseiki pear seed would be of being tasty. I'm also worried because I know some Asian pears when crossed with European ones have resulted in some really horribly thorny and invasice pears. I sure don't want that!
I'll try to post a picture of the pear and plum trees later, in case anyone has any ideas about what's wrong with them...
One of my husband's co-workers just can't believe he's better without any meds. He was SO sick just a year ago. He couldn't walk, was pooping all day, anemic, having kidney failure, bleeding out his bottom, weak and tired. Now he's almost back to his pre-crohn's self, and off all of the meds. Good food does that!
Your mention of the worms reminded me of when my husband and I were newly married, and he hadn't taken out the kitchen trash in weeks. One day he opened it up and found maggots. Maggots. I was totally grossed out. He, on the other hand, was super excited, saying, "Free fish food!"
As far as I know, we haven't gotten this thing automated. BUT, you are now our new guinea pig if our busy programmers can get it going. So, while there's no fancy title yet, I CAN and will splatter you with pie and apples!
Rob Lineberger wrote:As someone who has raised fish for years and done large-scale and small-scale aquaponics, I agree 100% with everything you said. Some things I would add:
1) consider "peeponics" to kick start the tank. ie, add a cup of urine to the grow bed to start the nitrogen cycle.
2) Load up the tank with fish, or the plants will suffer.
I asked my husband about the peeponics, and he agreed that it would work, but mentioned that it's a whole lot faster and simpler to jumpstart cyling a tank by taking some water from a sponge filter from some other aquarium. That way, you don't have to cycle it at all.
Nice to see an aquaponics thread going. Looks good to me, I'm a fish keeper as well as as an APer (aquaponics person.) One thing I'm learning about recently that I'll add to the discussion on fish feed types. Since in aquaponics the fish feed also feed the plants it is important to look at what is in the feed. Does it have the minerals necessary to feed the plants. This is a bigger concern if you want to grow vegetables you can eat of course. Goldfish food for the most part is plant based with little protein and minerals here is an example from a quick search "Fish Meal, Ground Brown Rice, Torula Dried Yeast, Feeding Oat Meal, Shrimp Meal, Wheat Gluten, Soybean Oil, Fish Oil, Algae Meal, Sorbitol, Lecithin, L-Ascorbyl-2-Polyphosphate (Vitamin C). Artificial Colors Including Yellow 5, Red 3, And Blue 2. Ethoxyquin As A Preservative.
So very true! If there's none of a nutrient in the fish food, it's not going to be in the tank and therefore not in the plants!
It's interesting, too, that you mention differences in quality of fish food. It was actually through searching for the best fish food for his fish, that my husband looked into eating healthier food. He'd been trying to find what fish ate in the wild, and then though, "What do wild humans eat?" That's how he ran across paleo/primal eating, which really turned his health around. He fell off the bandwagon for a while when we had kids...and then developed Crohn's. We think that if he'd stuck to eating "what wild humans eat," he might never have ended up getting Crohn's. Now he's on a diet that's similar, but stricter than paleo, called the Specific Carbohydrate Diet. It's kept his Crohn's in remission for over 9 months now!
I just love this thread. If it were not for this thread, my husband never would have found out that his father and sister have blue/green colorblindness, and his mother has a hard time distinguishing colors across the whole spectrum. All growing up, he was told that a sky blue hairbrush was GREEN...when it was obviously blue. But he thought he must be crazy. When, all along, he was the only one in his family who is NOT colorblind!
I supplement with both oyster shells and the crushed egg shells (I save the egg shells after I use the egg, dry them out on the woodstove or in the oven, and then add them to their oyster shells). The ducks just go over and eat the oyster shell/egg shells when they need more calcium.
It's actually pretty neat doing it this way, because it gives a pretty good indication of which birds are the layers at any given time. If they're eating the oyster/egg shells, they probably laid an egg that morning!
Higher protein feed! Mine are molting now, and I'm getting 2 eggs from 7 layers. But, I've found they lay better while molting, and finish molting sooner if I give them higher protein feed.
I increase their protein 1 of 2 ways...neither of which I'm sure are the "right" way, but they seem to work:
Cat food! They LOVE eating/stealing my cat food. FOr a while, I'd put out an extra bowl of cat food in addition to their normal feed, and they gobbled it up. A bit expensive, though, and I'm not sure it's the best way to go
Mix in--or just feed--them chickstarter. It has a higher protein content, and I was told that with mixed age flocks to just feed for the youngest. I noticed that the ducks are often molting the same time they are rearing ducklings, and they seem to get back to laying faster if I give them the chickstarter. So, now I supplement with chickstarter when they're laying slows down.
Since I've started feeding them more, and giving them more protein when they're molting, I get 2-7 eggs per day from the 9 layers (two layers right now have ducklings, so I don't expect eggs from them). I get eggs all year round--it's just in the winter it's more like 1-3 eggs, and in the spring it's 6-8 eggs, and when they're molting it's 2-4 eggs.
Welcome to permies, Ashley! I added your thread to our projects forum (https://permies.com/f/69/projects) as that seems to be where most journals go. And, we've got the ability to have one thread show up in multiple forums, so I kept it in Cascadia, too!
You've got a whole acre of the lovely skunk cabbage. Mmmmm, the sweet smell of skunk cabbage in the spring! We have a few of those plants, but thankfully the smell doesn't bother me too much. If I had an acre of it, I might think differently, though!
Beware the thorns on those evergreen blackberries. Mine are KILLER. When I first moved in, I was excited to see a different type of blackberry...then I got snagged by the thorns. Not only are they sharper than the himilayan ones, but they're hooked! Now I'm trying to outcompete with salmonberries, thimbleberries and even the himilayan ones!
The blackberry you can't identify might be blackcap raspberry. Is it really thorny with a lovely pale blue cane?
I've spotted this plant growing in my herb spiral for years, but never knew what it was. This year it made berries that look very nightshade like. Any idea what this plant is? Is it poisonous like deadly nightshade?
Fruit from the plant
Leaves and fruit of the plant (i hooked it up on a lovage stalk to get the picture)
In previous years, there was just one little plant. This year there are at least 4. I'm assuming it spreads by runners and is perenial in zone 8? Here's another picture
I honestly don't know, Kerry. I'm two states away, but I would think that Paul, and maybe Bill as well, would have told the residents about this. I know Paul loves this idea, and so I'm sure he's communicated about it with the people there.
In other news, I updated the first post of this thread to note that 1/5 of the rewards have been claimed, and there are 4 left. I'm thinking that's what we do when they've been claimed?