Growing up, I had a LARGE collection of Berenstain Bears. Having an older brother, I always identified with "Sister Bear." But, my dad was not like Papa Bear (Papa Bear was always a bit childish, in both good ways and bad ways, and my father was always very responsible), nor my mother very much like Mama Bear. They're parenting styles and personalities are very different.
Today, I pulled out my Berenstain Bears books to read with my kids. My 2 year old daughter instantly identified with Sister Bear, pointing at the pictures and saying her name. And my son identified with Brother Bear. They even call them by their own names!
...And then I realized I'm no longer Sister Bear, I'm Mama Bear!
... And then I realized I parent a whole lot like Mama Bear
Here's me telling my husband and kids to get away from the computer/video game screen to go do something more worthwhile. Oh wait, that's Mama Bear turning off the TV for the very same reasons.
And here's me cleaning up after my children and then threatening to throw the junk away while my children sob.
It makes me wonder if, all that time I spent reading these books had me internalize some of the parenting techniques/reactions, without even realizing it. I try to emulate my own mother, who was always calm and unfazed when I parent, but Mama Bear seems to be my default parenting technique.
Anyway, where do YOU get your parenting techniques from?
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Oooooooh. I was wondering why they looked so much like the Business Penmanship book. I don't like how that book leaves so little spaces between the words. It's a bit hard for me to read due to that, which is rather surprising since it's a text for showing people how to write well. The letters aren't nearly as distinct as they could be.
I honestly think your writing is a whole lot easier to read than there's. I like how you exaggerated the curve at the top of the R. It makes it easier to distinguish from the S. To make it even more clear for you, try making that curve at the top parallel to the line. The loop at the bottom of your S also helps distinguish it. I like how they both look.
For the Es, they are hard to form without them looking like Is or a set of them looking like a U. I can see you're working on getting the angle just right on the E. I try to do that,too, but even still, my Es still look a bit too much like upright loops.
You're making the letters right. All the Rs look Rs, and the Ss look like Ss. You could make the R's more distinct by making the tops of the Rs parallel with the line you're writing on. If you make the Es have bigger "loops," they'll be easier to distinguish between Us and undotted Is. But still, anyone who knows cursive would know what letter you're writing.
You're handwriting looks nice. I can read it really well. Maybe it's because you have a hard time perceiving the letters, that you have a hard time seeing what you've written?
Perhaps the problem with teaching handwriting is that you have a hard time telling IF you did it right, because it's hard for you to read. Meanwhile, other's can read it fine, but you don't have their feedback, so you're kind of lost...and being able to have someone else read your writing is nice, but it would also be nice to be able to read your OWN writing.
What qualities about the letter E help you distinguish it from other letters? Maybe focus on exaggerating them? If you focus on what distinguishes them, maybe you can make them more legible to yourself?
Oh! Just go to "Recent Topics" link at the top of the page! That will give you the easier to look at list of posts. I rarely visit "My Forums," as I find it a bit overwhelming, too (though now that I've gotten used to it, I do like being able to see quickly what threads people really like). Still, my brain likes https://permies.com/forums/recentTopics/list so much better, and that's what I use to navigate the forums. Try that link before you give up!
Oregon State University has an online Permanente Design Course and an Advanced PDC. Both are taught by Andrew Millison & Co. Reasonably priced, excellent material covered, & an intuitive & collaborative learning environment. As a "graduate" I highly recommend it.
Quite a few permies have taken the intro, and and some have also gotten the Design Certificate.
Ah, this course https://open.oregonstate.edu/courses/permaculture/ is the permaculture course I recall seeing when I wrote this post. There've been a few threads on permies about the free Intro to Permaculture Course, and I sadly didn't take the time to investigate to see if this thread was referencing that course or a different course. I'm so sorry!!!
Thankfully, I did write "free online permaculture course" and they do have a free INTRO to permaculture course. It's just not the Design Certificate course that this thread is referencing. Sorry!!!
Just wanted to update on the recipe I posted. I did turn it into crackers, and it DID turn out amazing. In fact, it's the first gluten-free (and Paleo) cracker/cookie recipe that EVERYONE in my family loved. When cooked to done-but-not-brown, it tastes and feels just like a breadsticks (which is what I'm going to try transforming it into next). When cooked to a light brown, it's a very nice cracker.
Hi Roy, I don't think we can change the beige colors behind the posts. I'll give you a piece of pie so you can turn off the woodgrain background if you like.
Like you, I was a little off-put by all the changes, but in the years we've had this "new" view, I've really gotten used to the woodgrain and the nifty menu on the side. For a few days, I accidentally glitched into the old view, and it was really disorienting for me. Maybe give the "new" view a few weeks to adjust to and you might not find it so distracting and depressing.
I don't mind mailing cards along with the check. But, I know for Judith, it takes a long time for things to get from where she is to where I am. So, maybe we just try to time the arrival for the same day or two? So, if we want them to arrive on Christmas Eve, we all try to make sure everything arrives around that day, so it's one big happy surprise in in his mailbox.
My paypall is aaronalderman @ hotmail.com (without the spaces, of course). It'd be helpful to put a note on the transaction saying, "For Travis" so I can spot them really easily.
If people want to mail me something to mail to him, PM me and I'll give you my address.
These short days don't bother me as much as the fact that the light outside is so dim during the day. Usually when it's darker outside than it is inside, I put the ducks away...but with the clouds and sun low in the horizon all day, it's darker outside than inside all day! It feels like sunset all day!
So, I'm looking at how long it takes for a letter to go from my side of the US, to Maine, and it looks like it's 3 days. So, if I mail a check on the 21st, it should get to Travis on Christmas day.
I'm thinking it'd be nice to be able to get the money there by or before Christmas Day, as kind of a Christmas present/big thank you for all he's done here on permies to help so many people.
I kind of like the idea of it being a surprise (won't work if he spots this thread, LOL!!!) and it being something he can use for whatever he wants to spend it on--a new comfortable couch for him and his wife to sleep on, presents for his kids, donation to a charity, medical bills, whatever he feels best spending it on.
We could try using something like gofundme for him, but then it feels more official and less like a thank you, right? If everyone thinks paypalling me and me mailing a check is a good idea, I'll post my paypall account and we can get the ball rolling on this.
Do you think I should make a mention of this thread it in the dailyish? I don't want anyone to feel like they need to do anything, but I also don't want anyone really bummed that they missed out because they didn't check permies for a week during the busy holiday season.
Ooooh, the flat-free tire is a great suggestion--Just make sure you get the right size!
We ended up buying the wrong size wheel (two small) for our two different wheel barrows. The first time, we returned it. But the second time (which was years later with our second wheelbarrow), my husband refused to return it (in his logic, it was his fault that he'd bought the wrong size, and so should just deal with having the wrong size). But, because the wheel is too small, you can't raise the handles up high enough without the bar that's in front of the wheel scraping on the ground. It's really frustrating! So, like with clothes, if you're buying someone else a flat-free tire, make sure it's the right size!
I LOVE my bedding fork! I actually had no idea that that was the name for it--I just always call it a "pitchfork." That thing is wonderful for turning bedding (for about 6 months, we made do with a normal rake and using a metal pipe to turn our bedding, but the bedding fork is 100 times easier!). I'm also impressed with how much better it moves mulch than a shovel. It takes a good 5 times less time to move mulch with a the bedding fork than it does to move the same amount with a shovel.
For kids, the wheel barrow is a HUGE hit. I ended up with the True Temper wheelbarrow for my kids, and they love filling it with water and dirt and toys and all sorts of other things. I like that the True Temper is deeper and can hold more than the shallower body of the metal wheelbarrows, but the metal ones sure seem nice and durable--and are plastic free!
Another great gift for kids is the Bond Mini-D Handle Shovel. We got one for our son, and he LOVES it. It's just the right size for a 3+age kid. He got it when he was two, and now he's so good with the thing that he can dig some serious holes. I love that it's made for adults, so it's actually durable, unlike so many shovels marketed to kids. My daughter loved my son's shovel so much that, at the age of 1.5, she got her own. She can't use it too well yet, but loves dragging it around and trying to use it! I frequently steal their shovels, too, when I can't find my larger ones, or when I'm trying to apply mulch to a bed or dig compost out of a barrel. It's great for that more detailed work that, if you didn't have a little shovel, you'd end up using your hands or trying to use a giant shovel without very good results.
Other good outdoor toys for kids are large dumptrucks for filling and dumping and just plain driving around. When we made the gravel play area for our kids, my son helped fill it with gravel by using his shovel to fill his dumptruck with gravel and then driving it over and dumping it in the play area. Hand trowels are also great fun for the kids!
I'm glad you found some fonts that work better for you! I tried to find handwriting fonts for dyslexia, but I only found a few people talking about how learning cursive might help dyslexics because "When writing cursive, the word becomes a unit, rather than a series of separate strokes, and correct spelling is more likely to be retained. All lower case cursive letters can begin on the line, so fewer of them are likely to be reversed." (https://dyslexiaida.org/why-bother-with-cursive/). Maybe that's why Spencerian and Copperplate work for you?
If Spencerian and Copperplate don't work as well as you'd like, you could actually try writing in the dyslexia font. Write the letters the same way as they look in the font. There's a lot of handwriting styles I learned just by mimicking online fonts. It's a bit harder, but once you get the basics of calligraphy down and how to form letters for various effects, it's not as difficult...at least for me. But, I'm not dyslexic, so your mileage might vary, so to speak. The dyslexia font might not be as pretty as caligraphy, but maybe learn it as well as the Spencerian/Copperplate. You could write your notes in the dyslexia font so they're easier for you to read, and write things for other people in the prettier cursive fonts.
I'm wondering if there aren't many books about improving handwriting for adults because, back when people needed good penmanship, they were taught it as children. And, now, when people aren't taught good penmanship, it's not valued, so there aren't many people trying to learn and therefore not much demand for such a book.
If you can get appropriately sized granite pebbles for cheap, it should be just fine for AP. The only types of rocks I usually warn against are stuff like limestone/marble that will mess with pH. Otherwise, I use the cheapest gravel I can get, around here that is the 1/2" (and smaller) brown river rock which is mostly quartz based rounded pebbles. Granite costs more down here in FL.
I remembered this thread where were discussing grit and I found that people were reporting heavy metals in granite
So I ran a ton of 12 x 12 granite samples up to Boulder Colorado to a man that had an XRF gun, looks like a hand held radar gun, spits out a list of heavy metals present in what you point it at. Yikes, lead, arsenic, cadmium, chromium, lots of uranium, and dozens more heavy metals. Everything except beryllium. Finding beryllium was the Holy Grail but my budget was limited to a hundred scans so we didn't find that one.
Amounts varied of course from small trace amounts to ore quality, as much as 1% of some heavy metals, much more for common metals like lead.
But, are there heavy metals in other volcanic rocks like lava rocks? It looks like natural lava rock is dangerous, but not man-made. Here's a quote from a saltwater fish tank forum
The reason natural lava rock is so dangerous is that it may contain heavy metals that can leach into your tank. Am I right?
in principle yes BUT .... it isn't heavy metal which is that dangerous in the long therm ... it is sulfur/sodium-sulfur and something like that; materials which solve in sea water very fast and poison the water and ALL animals.
I'm thinking that the granite might be better than the lava rock as it's denser and less prone to dissolving...
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But, I'm really hoping and praying you don't leave either this earth or permies. Please hang in there.
Like others, I think it might largely depend on the child. There may, in fact, be 6 year olds who can maturely handle a gun. My son is 5. He doesn't even get to use a carving knife (or scissors!) without supervision. My husband keeps trying to convince me to let him have a little nurf gun, and I won't go for it. I do NOT need him shooting his little sister all day--which I'm pretty sure is what he'll do--or accidentally hitting my glass oil lamps and breaking their chimneys. I also don't want to encourage violence on his part. I think some kids can disassociate their shooting in a video game or with a nurf gun from actually being violent, but not all kids can do so. I very much want him to respect that real guns are not toys...and for him, giving him a toy gun would not help with that.
I also live in a very liberal area of the country. Kids that talk about guns or draw pictures of guns, can get in some serious trouble. This was even so almost 60 years ago! My father was in kindergarten and drew a picture of the two things he loved most: guns and his mom. And they interpreted that as him wanting to shoot his mom. I don't need my son having that sort of thing on his school record, or getting in trouble because he pretended to shoot someone in school. There's too many school shootings for schools to take such things lightly. As a former teacher, I want my son to have every chance to succeed in school, and sometimes things like talking about guns, or swearing, or breaking small rules can really affect how well a child does in school. I've seen too many kids get stuck in downward spirals in school. I don't want that for my kids.
I just can't get my mind around a six year old killing something with any real concept of what that means?
My son understood death at the age of three, but he was very confused about it. We kept losing ducks to predators, and he'd watched a video about composting which showed a rat decomposing. Because of this, for a while, he was extremely distraught about the animals dying, then he wanted them to die to "become nutrients for the earth," and now he's got a deeper understanding about how it's sad, but we can still make use of death. But, I honestly would not want him taking a life himself until he's MUCH older.