I met one of my best friends on there 4 years ago, we've met in person too, she's an amazing and wonderful human being. We could be in a relationship but I don't feel that level with her, though I love her dearly and know its mutual and we tell one another that. I joined again 2 months ago, not as a paid member, and was talking to 6 (not all as romance interests) people before I met the girl I'm now dating.
If you decide to join and want tips on how to navigate let me know, got pretty good and clever with it.
The weird thing was that I wasn't really looking for a girlfriend, just wanted to talk to interesting people and to keep that attractive feeling up...was pretty happily single then *OH MY* someone hooked me!
Man, people think I'm crazy when I tell them this...
I'm 38yrs old, dirt poor, live with my parents, and have no desire to be status quo...my life is great, tons of volunteering, tons of gardening, tons of helping people...but as you can see from the things I wrote, I have almost nothing to offer any woman that's looking for something long term and serious. My "stay-at-home-farmer-teacher-dad" fantasy grows more distant by the year it seems...haha!
That said, I had great luck meeting women on "Millionaire Match". I don't pretend to be rich there, in fact I am very blunt about my life and lifestyle and my desires in a person. The women I talked to are from all over, they are neat, most are mid-30's to 40's and divorced, most have kids. 75% of them are "basic b****es", but 25% of them are really nice women seeking at least good conversation from someone that is interesting and nice. The women outside of the US are looking to move here in many cases (whenever their profile is in English, basically.)
You're a handsome dude with a better job than me, with land, and closely attainable goals. Don't bother becoming a member unless the $70mo is no big deal to you...if you become a member you'll get 100x more attention.
I got lucky and a girl messaged me on Instagram, just happened to be a girl that I had a crush on and she lives less than a mile away, so that's going well so far!
Grace Gierucki wrote:I've been no-poo for about 1 1/2 years, I use baking soda and ACV about every 5-6 days and it has been working well for me until now. I have two questions/problems- 1. We moved from the city to a house with softened water and my hair has gone totally limp and gets greasy much faster, any ideas what tweaks to make? 2. Sunscreen, the bane of my existence. I'm very fair and need to use it, I make my own which I am super happy with but it's causing my hair line to be constantly greasy! I'm considering adding a diluted Dr. Bronners step to my routine just along these edges, has anyone tried this? Thank you
I was the first mate on a boat, where I worked 16hrs a day every day in the sun, all day, and I used coconut oil for sunscreen 100% of the time. I was smart about the sun exposure but it helped enough to keep me from burning 99% of the time, two days that I recall getting pink...and that was really due to me rubbing off the oil.
My tolerance for coconut oil might be a lot higher than some peoples, rather the grease of it than sunscreen. My body chemistry makes coconut oil turn sweet smelling after a few hours, almost over-ripe type sweet.
Dr Bronners may help with the limpness, though it can dry out hair too. Try it!
Since 2005 I've donated my hair 5x. Previously I was conventional, cruelty free, shampoo and conditioner user. For the last year I've used Baking Soda and Apple Cider Vinegar, with occasional conditioner use, and I do not intend on changing that...loving it!
My work is *extremely* dirty work, wildlife rehabilitation, and I literally have no choice but to bathe afterwards or I'll repulse everyone around me, and myself, and I'd likely get some kind of disease...so, I have to shower and wash my hair regularly.
That said, I use vinegar or nothing 4-5x a week, just rinse my hair, and 2 days a week I use baking soda and then vinegar in my hair.
I think barefoot living is great, mostly. Vibram FiveFingers have helped to save my life, because my body was so beaten down after a car accident that I wasn't able to wear regular shoes without horrible daily pain. In society I wear those. People are really gross, public spaces are gross...anything with a public restroom is just a footpath of disease, at least in my mind. So, it's hard for me to go barefooted out in public like that, though I think its fine if others do. The only time I wear shoes is at work (steel toes for one part-time job, vibrams at the other and only because of how much death and disease I'm around) and out in public, but 80% of my time is spent at home...with bare feet.
It's neat that the "sandals" work, made me laugh out loud literally.
Whatever makes you comfortable, go with it, it's nice to evolve with experience.
Colin Nelson wrote:The people who are most critical of body hair on women are women, from my experience.
Wow! Sorry Colin, but I really have to disagree. Not with your perspective, which is unique and true to your own person. But as somone who is very well traveled in the world, I see just the opposite being true. Also, women's fashion and grooming trends are currently set by men (pretty much globally). I have never met a woman that would shave legs, pits, privates/bikini if it were not for social pressure and male expectations(just ask a few).
So cudos to you Cassie, and again, sorry Colin, not trying to pick on you, I just really felt the need to try and add balance to what you wrote.
We probably run in different circles. I've got a lot of hippie-like lady friends, but I grew up in a female dominated southern conservative family (many catholic school attendees) and never heard anyone belittle or make fun of women with hair like I have heard from the females of said upbringing. I'm pretty well traveled myself, and find a lot of US views on women and their suffering pretty humorous when compared to the constant sexual harassment of women in Europe and India, or the oppression they face in Africa and the Middle East. That stuff is a whole different discussion, and those places really have a lot of male based oppression of females, cultural and institutionalized oppression...real serious, not even remotely humorous, stuff.
But here in the US...women are really mean to one another in many ways, on different levels. It's really weird, actually, how focused they are on other women. Social conventions on style and "hygiene" are focused on to a scary degree. My best male friends are very opposite of me...they like conventional American women and the standards of grooming they have been held to since the early 1900's, but they don't really say mean things to or about women with hair. None of them have ever said anything to me about the women I date, though females have multiple times. Maybe its because my close male friends know I'd just dismiss the criticism, and the women think I care what their opinions on it are. I don't.
No hard feelings or criticism taken for your reply.
I'm curious as to what Cassie's decision is, or if she talked to her friend.
Remember that shaving is a fad, sold by marketers, just like the clothes with holes in them and frankly things like the pledge of allegiance...none of them are old, none of them are the cornerstone of our society, it's just new age propaganda that's been profitable for the last 100 years.
I flag the "shave club" sponsored ads on social media as offensive, because I never met a man or woman who was less valuable to society due to the hair on their body.
(I actually have beef with Joel Salatin over his required grooming to work with him, but I digress...he can demand whatever he wants on his own farm.)
p.s.
Be careful blaming men for the marketing of women's fashion. The people who market that stuff are not speaking for any significant minority or majority of men, they are simply selling things without regard to the impact it has on society, because they are horrible and disgusting people who sit in ivory towers and never really have to face the results of the poison they distribute to people. They are rich, sheltered, people who do not see you and I as humans, they see us as profit. (and tons of them are women..also, no offense to rich people because I love rich people, just not those rich people that don't have to live with the impacts of their choices.)
Just my 2 cents.
There has been a lot of good advice on this thread but I still think the best advice is "talk to your friend".
The people who are most critical of body hair on women are women, from my experience. So, yes, I'd imagine that someone has thought or said something about your hair and the wedding if they ever make passing comments about it with you around.
I'd talk to my friend about it, if it was an issue in my life.
Recently I met someone with whom I've been spending a lot of time, and she doesn't shave her legs. It doesn't bother me at all. I'd never be embarrassed about it or ask her to shave for me, because I don't want her to for me...there are things I want someone to do for me, but not that. She told me last week that she was probably going to shave soon, to which I replied "OK" and said maybe we'd trim on the same day (me trimming my beard).
The last girlfriend I had stopped talking to me for a week when I shaved, this girl says she doesn't care...and I believe her!
I get the concern, but maybe your friend wont care. You wont know if you don't say something, even if it's "I'm not shaving, just want you to prepare for that."
You could always compromise and just trim the jungle back a little bit.
I trim certain parts of me, hey...I know what's up and I'm a hairy man!
I'd gutter my parents house and irrigate the yard with it, then buy the supplies and rebuild their patio and make my mom a nice raised herb garden bed, and an outdoor fire place/grill/stone oven.
What about putting a few pegs on the bottom of the spawn bucket and sitting it inside another 5gal bucket so when it drains you can just pour it out? I don't remember any holes being in the spawn buckets we used in Christchurch, NZ, it was literally just a growing medium, spores, and exposed surface kept moist in a dark closet. I don't even remember wetting it, grew for about a month and then was done. There are probably 30,000,000,000 different ways to 'skin a cat'...just gotta figure them out and which way works best for you!
they'll fertilize, aerate, compost...all at the same time! lol
I like mixing a bunch of stuff, even out of season stuff, and sowing it all around. It doesn't matter if it grows to the maximum or not, just that it sprouts and takes up space and doesn't cause harm...if it's just ground cover, anyway!
I'm thinking that you meant things to plant this year but I guess you mean from seed more than planting, otherwise I think strawberries would still be OK...from seed the greens and I definitely agree with radishes since they are usually done in like 40-50 days, but there's not real need to harvest them, same with the greens, and they should all hold soil and crowd out weeds. Mustard greens have become on of my favorite because bees love the flowers and it's such a hardy plant with a good variety selection. Plus, good mustard is freakin awesome!
You live in one of the best climates in the world, in my opinion!
That particular Acacia tree is commonly used as a wind break near dunes, apparently, to keep them from being destroyed by wind. If that is not a problem for you then there are many uses for the tree should you decide to remove them.
In an old river bed I would guess that, with cut acacia, you would be able to create wonderful Hugelkultur beds to help retain the water from what little bit of rain that falls in your area. To help manage water it would be beneficial to create some berms and swales to direct water flow as well, perhaps from the natural banks of the river and channeling the water down to hugelkultur beds which would be partially dug out and sunken as to make sure moisture retention is high. Your plant selection looks ideal! I'd add some Moringa trees, and other medicinal plants to go along with the food production. Add some Coffee trees in places where other trees will provide good shade...coffee fruit is one of my favorite! "Ice Cream Bean" is another great, beautiful, tree with a food crop. Don't forget about things like Blueberry, Mulberry, Mayhaw, Persimmon, Kiwi vines, Passion Fruit vines, Kukuri Nut (Candle Nut), Tea, and Yaupon holly (Ilex vomitoria, which makes a tea like Yerba matte but is incorrectly said to cause vomiting...it does not.)
I'm not sure what you mean by "petting zoo-esque", but friendly and handle-able animals on small farms are incredibly important...you have to live with them and they have to live with each other, and you don't want to be a prisoner or unable to have guests visit, or a caretaker if you need to go out of town for some reason!
Having animals that do not produce, or that you do not make significantly productive (so they at least pay for themselves), on a small farm is...interesting, a costly and troublesome form of entertainment in my opinion. I don't know your financial capabilities, but I'm poor as dirt so I come from that perspective. If money is no object then it's not an issue, but expect the unexpected!
If you want some goats that you don't have to do anything with, why not get a threatened/endangered Heritage breed that will suit your needs and also fetch a good price for offspring while preserving typically hardier and more interesting lines than the run of the mill industrialized breeds?
I think Indian Runner Ducks would be very entertaining on a small farm and they are easy to handle, dont need a pond, dont fly, and are heavy egg producers.
Believe it or not, in the scale of small scale...2 acres is plenty! A person with the right drive could create something unimaginably productive. Diversity is a key aspect of the small scale farm. You don't want all of your eggs in one basket if you're looking to do anything with it. I'm not really one to come from the mindset of pure entertainment farming, that's just not in me personally. I want to produce insects, vegetables, fruit, seeds, eggs, meat, fur, skin, fiber...everything that I can in the smallest space that I can do it effectively.
I'm not sure if I am any help in this, but hope so and hope you find the info you want and need!
There are always Alpaca, which make outstanding fertilizer and hair and have profitable offspring, or Llama which are more likely to protect themselves from predators and still produce good hair and fertilizer.
I agree, in that climate he'll probably be OK. A simple sweater or shirt on him could help, but could get stuck on things so it's best to use while home, a pine & cedar mulch on the concrete could be helpful as well. The suspended blanket is a cool idea. You'll probably know if he's having a hard time with the cold, he'll either want inside, shiver, lean on you more than normal, or be abnormally stiff.
What about a strawberry plant that produces a lot of runners? It wouldn't matter if it produces fruit or not, it's cold hardy for your area, low growing...etc..
In my thoughts I came up with a small scale crawfish farming method (I'm from Louisiana they are called Crawfish here...if you say "Crayfish" people will look at you funny or think you're talking about a crazy fish), and it could be scaled down or up. But, basically, you'd either do a small aquaponics setup under a greenhouse-like canopy or a sunken floor in a greenhouse with grates where you could drop the trimming scraps for them to eat and so that watering would drip water directly back into the sunken pond, and the cycled water could be drawn up to the plants for fertilized water, also traps could be hung on the grates for harvest time. They eat meat and veggie scraps. In theory a person could use something as simple as a pallet with one side cut out a small pond liner...etc.. They are very hardy, do well in aerated but shallow water, it's mostly just controlling temperatures and giving them a proper breeding section.
Here is a video, it has adult language...I'm sorry about that, but it's a simple and easy method.
Kune Kune is an actual pig that grazes and does not root, is there a guinea pig named after it?
I'm in Louisiana and have been looking for Cuy for years, or at least a really large breed of Guinea Pig, but haven't been able to find them. Some people seem to find them, mostly in California pet shops, but I don't know enough about the difference to know if they are Cuy or just mutated GPs. I'd be interested in trying to make a very large breed of Baldwin GP, since they are hairless...would be kinda cool, granted pelts are always useful but a Baldwin would make cleaning them ridiculously easy.
For cuts that need to be clotted asap, and with limited supplies, potato starch or dried instant mashed potatoes, or ground Cayenne pepper works. I have used the direct application of Cayenne Pepper method, on a razor cut to bone, and it worked perfectly (better than anything else I have ever used for any bleeding injury...ever.) Here's a video about how to make a clotting gauze, like Quick Clot, but I have not tried this method. It also goes over the direct application method. My wound would have needed stitches but the tendon and wound both healed without other medical attention, good care and bandaging was sufficient. And no, it doesn't burn like one would imagine it actually works as a great numbing agent.
There is a program that converts PDF to TIFF as well, not really sure of the advantages...lots of programs to make the files smaller, some to delete borders and blank pages...etc.
I'm far from a guru when it comes to this, would be best to research.
wetransfer generates a link that people can click on/that can be shared.
dropbox you can select people from the address book to share with. If one created "Permieshare@gmail.com" or something like that, they could add all of those that sign up for the daily emails etc. In theory anyway.
For something like a roll-out garden, I could see a weed-barrier cloth that has the little expandable soil pockets sewn/molded in, and pre-seeded. Someone could buy/roll-out their "companion vegetable/herb/fruit" garden, tack it down, and water it...then be good to go!
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