Paul said:
"I have huge tracts of time put into the study of consensus, intentional community and communication. And while most people who travel this path come to the conclusion that consensus is best, my conclusions are different. My mission is seems simple to me, and sounds awesome to others on first blush - but when it is time to implement, damn near everybody tries to shut me down. Consensus gives them the tools to shut me down ("dig? into mother earth?"). "
I have a similar history. Both my dh and I have too many ideas. At first people love us, then it begins to drive them up the wall. One former friend said, "You are just trying to make me feel stupid".
I have concluded that some cultures encourage extremely contentious and competitive behavior. Others allow almost no contention and tightly control competition. Still others have developed weird combinations of the two extremes. All are attempts to control and direction "human nature" because it just doesn't work, naturally. Imho, the species is going to have to evolve quickly or die.