I’m very glad to see this topic. I’m 74 now but had so little information about menopause at the time. In late 40’s, I noticed memory problems. Someone happened to not worry, it was just menopause. In my fifties, I realized that I remembered things by replying the “video” of an event, where I put my keys, a conversation. But now the videos were gone. Whenever I mentioned the way my memory used to work, I never got recognition from others that they remembered in the same way. After about twenty years, the videos are returning, gradually at first. I’d love to hear from others about this.
My transition to no periods was simple, just a few months’ lapse, then one and done, when I was 50. Never sweating, but frequent hot flashes. I got rid of all turtlenecks, and could walk barefoot to the mailbox in snow. They were awkward during the day around other people, but very troublesome at night because they woke me up, then I had to pee, then couldn’t get back to sleep. I had always been able to sleep soundly for 8+ hours, so this was very disturbing for daytime energy. Even now, without the hot flashes, I am unable to sleep through the night.
My blood pressure had always been 110/70, but it skyrocketed. I had never been overweight, but I gained about 20 pounds. In my early 60’s I tried whole food plant-based eating and it has helped immensely. I’ve never been pregnant, never tried hormone therapy, didn’t know about alternatives. I do enjoy the freedom of age and agency. I learned and practice the Feldenkrais Method, which gives knowledge and practical responsibility about life as well as body flexibility, so I’m optimistic about finding solutions. I’ve found, though, that many others don’t like my newfound self-assurance. If someone complains about the way I look, I just say that they don’t have to look at me.