i have read a lot in this threat, that we should learn, even at school, about social rules, and how to behave to fit in. (I translate what I remember having read).
I did think the same....
I used to say that I used to lack social contact during my youth, and thus it prevented me from learning properly the correct use of social behaviour!
I do not believe this anymore. This proper behavior, I now understand, is transmitted in a way we just cannot capt, because of the nervous system we have. According to porges, this is ventral part of the vagus nerve that is in charge of this. The dorsal branch is responsable of the freeze response when a shock is too strong or too youngly experienced. When I learnt this, I could understand better why I would literally freeze in any stressful social interaction! In my case, my mouth was frozen, so people could not interact easily with me. ok, we can be bullied at scholl, but let's understand why other children could not understand us! And we are scaring to then as well, I guess, because even when you are a social child, well it is not so easy and you can experience fear, even if you do not freeze.
So, as I said, I do not believe that social skills have to be taught, but yes, it should be noted that some children have difficulties, and YES, there should be a program to help then, because they cannot learn in the unconscious way others do.
I also was "good at school" and still have problems to understand why some people do not understand what is obvious for me, especially because I am creative at new understandings through crossing of informations.
But now I understand that we are all like blind people: we can learn Braille Reading with the tip of fingers when we lack something. I did learn certain things just because I was blind for others.
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