Jocelyn Campbell wrote:I don't know how much of this sentiment resonates with me due to being an introvert, or being a sensitive sort dealing with far too much stress over different periods of my life.
I think it describes a level of shut down I've experienced where I've been unable to "hear" others. Just no capacity to take in what they want to say, plus a severely reduced or non-existent ability to learn new things.
I'm so, so grateful to be moving past a multi-year period of feeling like this and now being able to listen to others and have meaningful conversations again.
Jocelyn Campbell wrote:One year living in community has reinforced something I've always known about myself: I'm a social introvert.
I've always preferred one-on-one interactions to large groups and this graphic nails why.
From graphic from Roman/Schroeder Jones:
My main coping skill is to retreat to my private bedroom space, because even outdoors here at the base camp acreage there are not many private areas just to be.
I hope this isn't a repeat topic already thoroughly discussed elsewhere in the community forums. I just thought it might help to share and discuss different coping techniques because, surely, I'm not the only social introvert living in community.
Douglas Alpenstock wrote:Playing an instrument well, such as a guitar, is a fine coping mechanism for introverts. In a crowded gathering, you can settle into a corner with a beverage, provide pleasant music for people, and fade in and out of conversations at your pleasure. Your live music creates the warp bubble that keeps people at a certain distance, because they can see you are fully engaged and yet not stand-offish or antisocial. On the contrary: people invite you back, and ask "will you bring your guitar?" Perfect.
paul wheaton wrote:surely, I am not the only one that feels this
This was likely the only way I could personally cope with going to music events as much as I did, back in the day. Staffing and then running the sound board was a way to be just-close-enough to people without them being in your face constantly.
James Alun wrote:I work as the Audio Visual technician on a 150m ship with 300 people on board. I have a built in excuse to ignore everyone during community gatherings.
Jocelyn Campbell wrote:
I wear a headset to listen to shows or music while I'm doing accounting on the computer. It's amazing how many people don't notice or talk right over that.
Jesse Glessner wrote:WOW!!! Is this ever a revelation!
I thought all of you 'permies plebes' WERE extroverts who wanted to show your skills at work building a better world, living in tents throughout the year, and living as much 'off the land' as possible and filing in the rest with your permie gardens. And of course, working on learning-by-doing projects.
I suspected that you would crawl into your tents at night, make sure you had enough energy stored from the sun and partied half the night away having a beer with popcorn and watching the latest permies based VidClips.
What a wake up call for me!
Any way, why not tents if you're an Introvert? The have some really nice ice-fishing tents that you can stand up in and rolling out a sleeping bag at night would be no problem. A propane lantern would solve the light and heat problems in each tent. With all of the trees around you you could all get together and fell one, saw some planks for several tents to have a very small desk& chair/stool, and some shelving. Help each other long enough to get all of your tents set up like that and then go hibernate until it is either chow time or work time. Nuff said! :-)
OH! Wait, there is more. You need all of those nice thermals tops & bottoms, hats, gloves, and boots for the frigid weather too. And something to break the ice cycles when you go pee! :-) Being an Introvert, make sure no one is watching!
Ken Poythress wrote:Leila Hamaya.......
thanks for the introduction to "Headphone Silence"
Jocelyn Campbell wrote:...
Whoa about this line: "It takes up to 23 minutes for a person to regain focus after they've been interrupted."