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Hey folks, looking for someone to join me on my land-based project. 27-acre paradise on the edge of the National Forest in Western North Carolina with a 100 tree heirloom fruit tree orchard, several food forests in progress, a 2000 variety heirloom vegetable seedbank, fully stocked herbal apothecary. For about half the year I subsist entirely on food grown here. With a partner I think that could increase to entirely self-sufficient. I am 47 and divorced (for 5 years) with a 17 year-old son about to fly the coup (currently joint custody and he lives with me in the summer). There are 1000 species of plants on the land here and I have plans for a permaculture ethnobotany academy, consulting business, and fruit tree nursery as I phase out of a university professor gig into full-time livelihood from the land. 13 springs, 3 creeks, cleanest river in NC just down the road. 22 acres of mature cove hardwood forest teeming with medicinal herbs, salamanders, wild turkey, bear, deer, some old-growth trees, and much more. Located in a valley with an intentional community, lots of ecological farmers, artists, alternative healers, musicians, and old-time Appalachian people.

Obviously any merging of lives is a process. I guess we would begin by starting a correspondence and online hangout and move from there if it seemed appropriate. Ideally, you would have ample gardening, cooking, fermentation, and/or medicinal herb experience or at least a passion for exploring such permacultural realms and more. I hope you would have at least some experience as I am a 25 year veteran of the environmental and permaculture movements and am completely committed to living off and with the land moving into the future. I fully expect the Indian variant to kick in here in the US in the Fall and for us to be back to square one in terms lockdowns, etc., if I am reading the science right. We can’t techno-scientific our way out of this—we must go back to the land. Native elders have been saying this for 500 years and I have been listening.

One thing that would be important is that you are a whole person. We have all suffered various sorts of trauma and certainly women have had it worse than men, generally speaking. Have you been able to heal enough to feel comfortable in intimate relationship with another person? Are you still fundamentally joyful? Do you like to dance? I could have a lot of fun with the right person out here on my permaculture ark and would really like to find a grounded, beautiful spirit of a woman to join me and create a joyful future as we move from one world age into the next, surviving this painful birthing transition process with all the smiles and homegrown veggies we can muster :)

Feel free to email me at jrveteto@gmail.com if you are feeling it with an introduction and a few pictures.

(postscript one day later--I may continue to add to this if the moment suits me right)

To be clear I don’t expect perfection in any one and I don’t expect anyone to have not went through many tribulations. That’s true of me as well. But can we put some of that to the side to meet the challenge of the historical circumstances we find ourselves in?  Can you refrain from manipulating me without being intimidated by me? Does true egalitarian interrelationship exist at this late date of historical unraveling? I still believe. I’m looking for a woman grounded in the sacred feminine. An earth mother woman. Someone who knows who they are and is as powerful as the deepest natural mystic. Or who is at least committed to finding themselves on that path and is significantly down the path. I don’t want to compete with you. I have the provider and protector part down, at least to the best of my ability. I am also in touch with my own sacred feminine and absolutely dedicated to nourishing and valuing that significant aspect of myself. I am yang, divine pure masculine. But I am also pisces, an empath, completely in tune with flow as far as I can perceive it. This is intimidating to many women. Because women are naturally more in tune with it (generally speaking) but so many are lost in our culture that they throw it around without realizing its power. I want to celebrate your power. And protect it. And dance with it.
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Lovely post Jim.

I sincerely wish you the very best in your search.

Cheers!  K
 
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Thanks Kate for your positive feedback and I wish you the best in your search as well!
 
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Hey folks,

I just wanted to clarify something on this post (seems like I have run out of time to edit the original). I actually love cooking and other activities such as cuddling that may be traditionally considered more 'feminine'. I am looking for a partner to garden, cook, etc. with. Experience life with. Although I'm more toward a traditional male gender-role type I don't fully subscribe to any sort of categorization--each relationship with develop as it may according to the yin-yang balances of each individual in each context. I do value yin-yang balance though and women who are plugged into sacred feminine earth mother power sources (doesn't mean they don't have more yang masculine aspects as well because everyone does, it really is a spectrum!). By 'protect' I meant that I have a good land setup and if any impetuous aggressive person shows up to try and threaten the peace and balance we are trying to achieve here at this permaculture microvillage in formation, then I will plug into my yang masculine energy to try to the diffuse the situation as quickly and effectively as possible. I'm all about the peace and love. All best,

Jim

p.s.  I'm a Daoist
 
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Over all Jim, I think you're quite the catch, and quite surprised you haven't had any responses thus far from the Ladies on this thread.
Then again, you may have received a multitude of PMs.  

That is the up side of being a Mature Woman; life has provided me with a wealth of experience to call upon, and to say with a certain degree of confidence you/Jim are well worth investigating.

So come on Ladies!  If I were younger, I wouldn't let this slide!

Cheers!  K
 
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Haha Kate thanks for your continued endorsement! I have been receiving some PMs, and have been meeting some interesting people which is great, but nothing that seems like quite a right match yet, so still looking all you eligible permagoddesses :) Though years & miles are between, I think we are kindred souls walking this earth in solidarity. May you find that special someone if you haven't already. Cheers!
 
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I agree, kindred Spirits/Souls.

I have deduced that;  in having lived "My Life" and not Another's is to remain single.  
Not a negative thing in and of itself, but a way of "Truly Being", and of Being True to One's Self.

Historically, and to this day in Western Society (and many others), women pay a price for their independence and autonomy.

All the same,...

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