I live with my parents on their farm and help take care of farm animals. I spend alot of my time pursuing my permaculture hobbies and working in the dirt, whether its gardening, planting trees, or digging ponds. I like hunting, fishing, and foraging while out in nature. I rarely spend any time in urban areas and am somewhat of a hermit. I'm into living frugally and into voluntary simplicity.
rose macaskie wrote:
Looney k you say you are a near hermit, What do your parents think about festivities , my experience is that this being a hermit is not ias i used to think it was a question of the character otf people as much as something determined by your parents attitudes to society or your own not to you character. Do they think partying is silly frivolouse or great. DO they ionly approve work occupations. Do they think people wnho talk a lot are clowns or do they think that people who don't talk have notmuch nouse can't think of anything to say becasue they don't have head for it.
Do they think jokes fill a function like that they smooth over akward moments, help us to face up to things and talk of them that embarras us, are an easier to assimilate form of opinion thtn a lecture or do they think they are a waste of time and done to show off. Differences in peoples families attitudes to social conducts like thatting and joking and such are what makes a person more or less social, noy their shy or hermit like nature, i always tried to see peoples behavior as part of their inate character and nothing fitted till i found out that the opinions they hold change their conduct more than ther shyness or extrovertness .
Another example, some people think that conversation has a seriouse end of trying to let the other learn to express themselves, gain confidence and allows you to understand others and lead better or work together better and talking i sharing what you know instead of being mean with it and that it is not really possible to understand others without giving a lot of time to talking on lots of subject and others think talking is uneccesary and a wast of time better employed in other things like earning money and that they can know each other without spending much time talking, that they are brilliant judges of character almost magicians. That to talk is is a sign of weakness, a sign that you don't know how to contain yourself and have to blabber on . HO i like writting novels it seems. rose macaskie.
Hey Rose, I would go by this definition of what a hermit is
A person who has withdrawn from society and lives a solitary existence; a recluse.
I've always been somewhat of loner, don't need to be around tons of people, like more one on one. I like to keep busy learning stuff and reading, and social functions aren't of my prime importance. And when I'm not doing that, I'm working on my hobbies. So you can call me a nerd, too if ya like.
What about saying what songs you like and what tellevision programs
I like the song where I wake up and hear roosters crowing. I'm watching the x-files lately haha, but when its nice out, I don't need television shows, I just like to watch what is happening outdoors.
What politics do you believe in,
I believe in the politics of less government equals happier me.
do you beileve in evolution. What sort of a christian are you, heavy or light.
I'll say heavy christian, and I try to live my life accordingly...
If you had complete liberty bags of money, etc ., what would you do?
I would make a video of me dancing with them.
Do you like children?
yeah.. I thought that was implied when I said I wanted a family. Wasn't like I was going to sell them on ebay, they don't allow it anymore anyways..
Anyways, answered few there
I've found the strong silent type to be excellent for my self-education and sanity. I get a lot more reading done, and don't have to listen to a bunch of BS. Maybe it's just YOU that don't particularly like that, or religious men, or what have you, but it sounds like you're hoisting your prejudices off on the rest of us who don't have the same hang-ups.
I like Rose am old and married... but liked the photos, the kitty tells me a lot as does the action shots you chose... all show something about you besides how you look... two eyes a nose etc...
I am making my way thru all that Rose has to say, sure do appreciate the spaces she does use...I like each thought seporated a bit so I can understand it.
Also...I feel silly on the "singles forum" as I am happily married to a man I respect (and love of course, but love can be fickle and get us into trouble... better to marry someone you like to talk to than someone you like to look at)
I understand where Rose is coming from and it is not you she is dissing you, just 90+% of men. She is trying to open your mind, teach you, let you in on secrets you might not know.
You are so young and we made such mistakes at your age. Maybe the best advise will come from someone (a man) who is happily married, try to find out what they did/do right.
It was seeing her name as last poster that made me look in here...I know she is not single either
I'm new to the board (and am really enjoying the education and reading). I have "mom" advice for you too.....wait!! wait!!...don't delete yet
It seems like you live in a rural area, and I can relate to that since I grew up in Oklahoma, so I know some ideas just don't work in your geographical area...(you've probably grown up with or met all the girls there are too meet), but I'll throw out a couple of things:
1) After the PDC class last summer a few of us got together and initiated "Permablitz's." Some permies in Australia first came up with the idea. What we did was take one person's permaculture project, set a date--a Saturday usually, and people would show up to work and learn togeter; we'd have a potluck, learn some stuff, and have a lot of fun. It was popular with people in your age group. You could maybe host some of these----build a cob oven (for some reason, girls think that's really sexy), etc. You might at least meet some people who would share your interests---if not, all is not lost......you'd get some projects done and have a great time. Anyway, you can see what we did with Permablitzes here: www.dfwpermaculture.ning.com or google it, and you'll come up with the Aussie's take on it.
2) What about moving out at least for a while? How far from town are you? Could you rent an apartment or little house there (and still work on your folks' place) ....even if you had a roommate, it might be a good move. I recently went to visit my 23-yr-old son who is working and living in Ecuador, and it's really cool how he has his own habits and routines, and not follwoing everything handed down from his parents. I learned a lot from him! Anyway, something like that may do quite a bit for you and your lovelife. (?)