Wow, that's a torrent of questions!
I would love to be able to calculate the flow of heat in my systems
First you have to start with the total heat of combustion available. This is not too difficult, you can look up heat values for the different types of fuel
wood used.
what I'm losing out the exhausts
That means you are going to have to instrument the exhaust with a thermocouple so that you have some idea of the temperature of the gases exiting the stack.
((Gas temperature out) - (Gas temperature in)) x (heat capacity of air) is the amount of heat that the system is losing, and the rest of the heat you are capturing.
efficiency of what I'm gaining (I hope) as radiant/convection heat in the living-space
efficiency is 1-(heat lost/ heat of combustion).
one of the goals of an RMH is to surpass pyrolysis
I'm not sure you have stated that correctly, pyrolysis is just burning. If it's incomplete, then maybe you are losing a lot of flammable gases with more heat of combustion (like CO) up the stack. It would be better to say that the goal of a
RMH is more complete pyrolysis.
Yes, one can calculate the pressure-volume work that is done by the gases expanding in the riser. But this is not a useful thing to do. You are not interested in getting work out of the RMH, just heat. If you had it connected it up to a piston arrangement that did mechanical work, well that would be another case.
I'm happy to help you work out the thermodynamics of your RMH, but let's start with the basics: do you have it instrumented so you can measure temperatures in all the areas of interest?