Step one:
I grew up in a frugal home. Most of what we ate came from our property - a large vegetable garden, a few fruit
trees and bushes,
chickens for meat and eggs, and wild game (I actually grew up believing that hamburgers were normally deer meat). We also picked wild "black caps" (black raspberries), black berries, and mulberries. We collected wild black walnuts and spent hours in the winter with a rock and a hammer breaking the things open in front of the woodstove (shells went into the fire). We bought "deer apples" to eat and make applesauce with. We did lots of home canning and freezing. Hunt for morels.
Step two:
College. I was forced to buy a meal plan, had no need to get any other food, but I collected wild onion/garlic greens to add to my occasional bowl of ramen soup. I knew where the
apple trees were on campus, as well as the one cherry tree, and I frequented them when they were in fruit.
Step three:
Life in the "bush" of Alaska. My first teaching job was on the tundra in a Yup'ik village. The natives told me that ALL the berries were safe to eat (although some tasted better than others), and showed me what greens could be collected to eat or make tea with (I really miss Labrador tea/tundra tea) I went RVing with my mom and two best friends around Alaska that first summer, and my mom kept telling me not to random stuff in my mouth, but the stuff I was eating was the stuff that the Yup'ik people had shown me. My friends tried much of what I showed them.
Step four:
Dirt poor, tampering with freeganism. I came back from my lucrative job in Alaska to be nearer my future wife. I had 2 years of barely breaking even - renting cheap housing, biking to work at a low paying job, the only "spendy" thing I did was drive 2 hours every other weekend to see my girlfriend/fiance - we would go to church together, have lunch together, do something recreational/social together, then I would drive home. She was a student and very devoted to her studies. The first year I survived on 1) a deer I harvested, 2) a ton of apples I picked and did my best to store in a cool closet, 3) beans and rice, and 4), whatever I could glean from the staff lounge snacks at school (everyone knew my situation, they shared with me). The second year was a different state, different situation (fiance was now in grad school). Still lots of local apples, cleanup from grad school social events (one of the perks of helping clean up was that she could take all the leftovers, most of which went to me), and dabbling more with freeganism and foraging.
Step five:
Marriage. Serious freeganism. Lived in town. Still collecting wild apples and berries. Explored website
https://fallingfruit.org/
Step six:
Move back to the farm. Much less opportunity for freeganism. Big garden to
feed the family, started doing more foraging. Making a serious attempt to know what I can eat in my neighborhood/on my farm. Started planting only perennials with food potential - nothing that is purely decorative. Eating: Lambsquarter, wild apples, berries, redbud blossoms and pods, wild mushrooms (morels and learning about a few other edibles from elderly neighbors), wild plums, juneberries, daylily blossoms, dandelion greens.
Still trying to learn more, but in balance with the rest of my life.