My partner and I are currently in a transitional period of our life. We'll be the first ones to move in for the long run, to be the tinder to a new sparking community.
We met this couple/community on here - He's made a few topics about trying to find people (
First topic -
Second topic) He writes beautifully, and I was willing to meet this beautiful mind to see if we could work and live together.
Let me elaborate and introduce ourselves from a different perspective, because there's
enough space for the right people.
We got in contact for the first time with Ross last month. They've been bombarded with people that are serious/not serious enough to jump, so we wanted to show them our commitment to the future community by driving there and meeting face-to-face.
Me, my partner and our 10 month old piled up into the car and took the 900 km journey. A ferry, two wrong turns in the opposite direction, a night over in a hotel, a very bumpy dirt road later, we were greeted by Ross and his partner, Wilma. Talk about pressure: not only did we have to figure out if we like each other, but we also have to be together pretty much 24/7 because we're taking over a room in their house. Add a baby, two dogs, 5 cats inside, and
chickens, a duck and a pig outside (yes, it's Mr. Wu!
The Post-Apocalyptic Pig). It went surprisingly smooth.
I won't talk much about the property other than saying it has a great deal of potential. I haven't worked on it yet, so I won't talk about something I don't know. Hills and forest and bramble and ponds. Good
water. Good view. Cleared space and thick underbrush. It's a versatile property. What I do want to talk about are the personalities that will be on the property. I want you to have a better sense of who we are so you can figure out if this would work.
Peter and I are more homestead focused. We want to live on a property without getting into a
mortgage, have a garden/food forest that feeds our family for the year, maybe even have a couple horses again for transportation and
hay harvesting. We're looking to live much more simply, using the least amount of outside resources as possible. Now all that sounds dreamy-like, but we know how harsh reality can be. We've already lived on a large property, trying to do the same. The huge mortgage made it impossible. We tried living with basically nothing in a yurt, but it being in the wrong spot, a property that was going to be sold, it wasn't going to work out. We tried living with other people, but without the explicit reason of becoming a community, it became skewed and everyone left bitter. We felt used and tired, and we moved to the contrary of what we wanted: a duplex surrounded by other duplexes. Oddly enough, it helped us focus on what we did and did not want in our next place.
Peter's an extremely versatile, hard-working man. I tried writing down everything that he can do/ had done, but I felt like I was tooting his horn a bit too much. He's so hard-working it makes normal hard-working people look bad. It makes me nuts, but stuff gets done quickly with a person like that around.
On my side, I definitely don't have the
experience of manual labor under my belt. I can do something if it's shown to me and if someone does it by my side for a while, but that doesn't mean that I'm always happy doing it. I'm very efficient work oriented: if I doubt it to be a good thing to do, I won't waste my
energy on it (LOL). On the other side, I'm an avid learner - I love learning to do new things, get new almost-forgotten skills, jump in with both feet when opportunities show themselves. I like doing different things than Peter - I like planting the garden, fermenting food, making useful crafts. I have a hard time coming up with what I can do sometimes, but that's just because I'm good at the normal routine of what we're about: I render the fat to make the
soap, I harvest the wax to make the candles, I make the laundry soap to wash the clothes, I process the produce to make ferments, dehydrate, smoke, or simply to make dinner, I rip the old t-shirts and cloths to weave the next rug, I make some clothes. All that together makes me sound like I'm all peaceful and wise. The reality is that I'm learning and I mostly have no idea what I'm doing. I'm just willing to experiment so that we stop automatically going to the store to get this and that. I like learning from people that have the skills, so I go spend time with them. Now with a kid, I do the same things, just a lot slower.
As for Ross and Wilma, we've just met in person for 4 days. Not a lot of time, but plenty of information come from first contact. Communication is honest and clear with them, conversation is engaging. I can say that the previous topics Ross has written do present them honestly. Mr Wu does in fact come for walks with us. Humour is on the dark side, sarcastic, witty and word-play, just like what we find hilarious. They're more prepper-oriented, getting excited talking about different ways of SHTF, but still down-to-earth, realizing that homesteading is probably the best way of getting ready for it. They don't come from a background of homesteading, so we balance each other out well in that way.
We're looking for people like us to join us - we're certainly not personalities that come by often, but we've found each other through here. I felt comfortable around them from the first moment of meeting them.
Because of the time of the year that we went, we ended going to a christmas party. The house was FILLED - and I mean chuckful of people in this house. Plastic on the windows, the house just kept getting warmer and warmer. People were wearing christmas outfits, women were full of lipstick, baked goods was being passed on a tray held by the very cheerful hostess. Jokes about last year's snow was said between neighbors and the motorcycle salesman was trying to convince us that buying a four-wheeler was a must. I was standing in the room with my boy on my back, dressed like I was going to do the grocery, not some special event. I looked at Ross in his black leather jacket sitting in the overstuffed armchair, still taller than some bumbly women passing by with devilled eggs. He looked back at me with this look on his face, and I knew that we were glad to not be the only odd-one out in the room. We didn't fit in, but that was alright, we weren't trying to. I'm just glad I've found someone else that is like-minded enough, more "my people" than not. Ross, Peter and I left shortly after that, chuckling to ourselves.
We'll be on the property as soon as winter lets up on us here - 4 or 5 months from now, in April/May 2016. We're moving back into our yurt, we'll set up a small
solar system for
lights, carry our water. We'll have to find jobs until we set up our business (jobs are available, but might not be in your specific career). The town and surrounding towns are really awesome - it's rural, but there's some much available in an hour's drive. This is amazing to me - here, the closest
city is 2:30 away, and you won't get anything different than what's right around you.
We've found "our people", but we're looking for more of our people. Read Ross's other topics and if you think you might fit in with us, I'm suggesting that you contact me now. I'll go through who's serious and who's not. They've had to do this for a while now, so I'd like to help out.
Ultimately, you are in a solid relationship. You have knowledge and experience about homesteading/living on the
land. You have some specific useful skill (mechanics take note!). You're young-er/young-ish, but still emotionally mature. You are willing to invest in the property eventually. You have a vehicle. You need to bring what you want to live in, and hopefully aleady have experienced living in it.