Hello Jim, welcome to Permies! I heat with wood so I have some knowledge to share. But I'm up North so my advice may not apply perfectly (as you know). I'll keep to your numbers below and add more at the end:
1. I think 2 acres should be enough for you. I've heard that an intensively managed woodlot can generate a cord of wood per year indefinitely. That's 4' by 4' by 8' of wood. I heated my moderately efficient house on 5 cords last winter but it was an easy winter. If you can get 1-2 cords of good hardwood from your woodlot I'd think that you would be fine.
2. I like having some woods in different places so I would let them grow where you can get away with it. Use their shade, wind protection, etc if you can and cut them later if they get in the way.
3. Pine grows fast and burns wonderfully. People will say to never burn pine inside but that's based on rumors and horror stories. Seasoned pine is fine. Keep your chimney swept annually and you'll be good to go. It's particularly good for early winter and early spring when you want a quick fire to take the chill off.
4. I'd grow pine instead of willow.
5. No idea (doesn't grow up here)
6. Your other hardwoods sound wonderful, I wouldn't stress about getting the best possible. Last winter I burned pine, poplar, maple, birch and hemlock.
Other thoughts:
I cut a birch and poplar tree today that were about 12" in diameter at the base. They generated about 1/3rd of a cord of wood. So 6 trees of that size would be about a cord of wood.
There is a lot of wood out there for the
scrounging.
Wood should be seasoned. I like to be 3 years ahead on my wood supply. If it was a retirement situation I'd want to be even farther ahead. You never know when you might not be able to cut/process wood for a year. So plan some good wood drying and wood storage into your property design.
Good luck!