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SWM 43, SE Oklahoma- Seeking Partner on Established(hah) Off-Grid Farmstead Project  RSS feed

 
Bill Flicks
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Whulp. I was full of anecdotes and descriptions and all sorts of sell-myself goodies before I sat down to type... and apparently I misplaced all of them.

I've poked around on the forums for some time... forever reading, rarely posting. I'm not sure I qualify as a 'permie' except by proxy. Most if not all I do around here revolves around recycling, repurposing, DIY, growing and nurturing as responsibly as possible(albeit I'm still fixated on rows) and producing what I need rather than purchasing.

I'm 43... still can't get over that... Fit/slim, and in the hopes of finding someone of the female persuasion to share all of this with.

'This'... in a nutshell, is a small slice of the wasteland- left in ruination first from poorly managed cattle operations, then the oilfield- and my intention of bringing it back to life. I'm completely off-grid, from power generation to water collection and couldn't imagine living any other way. I came from the cities where we all have ideas of how this all should be(yes, I was one of 'them) and have since learned a lot about myself, how to discern between how things are and how things 'should be', a bit of patience, and how to accept and thrive from both the successes and failures of my endeavor.

Nothing ever seems finished, but I swear it's all coming together. I run a bit of livestock, am eternally building a home that I can't stop calling 'the barn' and the most exciting thing that's happened to me in the last 5 years has been either a free semi-load of pallets or seeing 6 rows of corn come up when and where I expected them to.

Like I said... I couldn't imagine living any other way.

I've been single since 2010, but tried 'meeting someone' on the web several times. Generally run into the same issues:  I do not want biological children, I don't participate in or care to be around heavy drinking, drugs or polyamory. A constant 'deal-breaker' has been that the other party is doing something similar to what I'm doing in their own way on their own land and like me- has too much in it and is too content with their surroundings to relocate.

For what it's worth- I eat meat, smoke a few cigarettes now and then, want a beer but rarely drink one(though I do like homemade wine and hard cider when I can get it). I'm not terribly social but grew up that way... Here, I've learned to appreciate and even love solitude. By 'not terribly social', I mean that I go to the 'hill party' once a year. Otherwise I see a neighbor at the 'mailbox row' every couple weeks. I could probably be counted as a prepper, but not the kind that listens to the end of the world radio shows or has a gun stashed in every cupboard. 

Best of luck to all of you, pictures attached- wish me luck too.




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Hester Winterbourne
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Good luck, Bill!  You sound like a nice guy.
 
Bill Flicks
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Thank you Hester!
 
Hester Winterbourne
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Hey Bill how is it going?
 
Bill Flicks
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Knee deep in Spring preparations, busy time of year... Life is pretty good all around. Job's wearing down. 55 working days to freedom, hah!


Still terminally single and still contending with what that means if anything...

How's life in the 'Midlands'?

 
Hester Winterbourne
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The Midlands are hot! 25 degrees today which is nearly 80 in dollars and it's come on a bit sudden after a cold start to the spring.  My sweetcorn hasn't done very well, the seedlings kept falling over and dying, but I have planted most of it out under plastic bottles and hope it gets away now.

Did I miss something on what the job is you are soon to escape from?

Maybe the trick with being terminally single is to big it up to yourself about the advantages, and how inconvenient it would be to fall in love, and then you kind of win either way, if it happens or not...  I've nearly convinced myself!
 
Bill Flicks
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32C here... a bit warm for this time of year. I won't tell you my corn is doing well and will be more than 'knee high in July'. The evil blackbirds have helped burst my pride bubble by pulling every single sorghum shoot and nibbling the seed off. Spent a lot of the afternoon replanting. If you have any spare plastic bottles... Maybe I can sling them at the birds.

I actually have tried convincing myself how 'better off' I could be. Friends that are married swear they envy me my freedom. But still... wouldn't it be the thing that rounds out the whole bargain? I mean... I sincerely love my life. My every day still astonishes me, even when I catch myself crossing my eyes at something that turns out to be nothing when you think on it. But... there's certainly room for another in my little woodland hermitage/asylum.

 
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I actually have tried convincing myself how 'better off' I could be. Friends that are married swear they envy me my freedom. But still... wouldn't it be the thing that rounds out the whole bargain? I mean... I sincerely love my life. My every day still astonishes me, even when I catch myself crossing my eyes at something that turns out to be nothing when you think on it. But... there's certainly room for another in my little woodland hermitage/asylum. 


That's called being a complete person.  I've been in a similar boat for four years.   But, *what it means* is that I get up every day, do the things that I want to do, work the job that I enjoy working at the hours that let me life my actual life...and that seems to take up an awful lot of time from dawn to dusk. 

Best of luck to you!
 
Alli Byrd
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Bill, I've been lurking on your thread and it inspired me to register on this site. So happy to see that my random Google search for people who felt like I did resulted in finding some intelligent posts. Keep them coming. Give us an update!

Allison in Texas
 
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