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SWF 43, Looking for a Single Male Homesteader

 
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Hello! I currently live in the mountains of western NC and I'm looking for a life partner (male) who is a homesteader.  I am not attached to NC, however I see myself staying around the eastern part of the U.S. (away from the coastal regions and the Mississippi River area) or maybe I would even consider moving abroad.  I have 3 children, none of which are dependent on me. My 2 older children are adults and my youngest lives with my ex-husband.  I am a college educated for Air Force veteran who has gone through many evolution's in one lifetime.  Much of my adult life was spent practicing the Christian religion very heavily. I actually minored in biblical studies in college, however, it was though my deep studies of the bible that lead me away from Christianity. To be clear, I am no longer a Christian.  I don't currently know what I believe, but I do think that humanity's origins have been suppressed. I know that I believe in personal freedom and choice as long as an other's freedom of choice doesn't fringe upon mine. I'm still a bit conservative in ideals but I'm not totally conservative and I'm not totally liberal.  I would maybe consider myself to be a patriot for now. Up until recently with this whole Q-anon thing and POTUS DJT, I had given up all hope in this nation and hadn't participated much in the political system. I'm still not totally convinced that the president and Q-anon are actually helping the country, but I am hoping they are and I'm waiting with bated breath.  I will be voting this mid-term to help keep the fake lip-tards out of the government.  

What am I looking for? That is a question I still don't have a complete answer for but here are some of what comes to mind.  I'm looking for a single male between the ages of 38- 54, who has a homestead somewhere in the eastern U.S. and is more similar to me in his beliefs than not. He would be a guy that isn't afraid of change or to be challenged in his ideas. He is always looking to grow personally and is self-aware. He is a masculine man but seeks to understand the sensitivity of the divine feminine in himself and certainly in his female partner. Ideally he would be extroverted as I am introverted but it's not a deal breaker.  I'm not particularly for a man who is a heavy drinker, into watching a lot of T.V. or mainstream sports/news. I'm totally against an behavior that I would consider sexually deviant such as pornography or pedophilia. I'd love for him to have a variety of self-sufficiency skills and seek to live a life of renewed sustainability.  He would be a man that sees his female partner to be equal to him and is not looking for a personal maid, cook, or sex slave. He is not afraid to do household chores and is sensitive to the needs of his partner. Ideally, mine and his beliefs, personality, and dreams would be in balance to one another.  He would be willing to teach me positive things he has learned and he also would be willing to learn from me things I know. He is teachable and doesn't think he knows everything. He would be physically attractive to me and a great conversationalist. My thoughts of what I'm looking for aren't all inclusive but I hope it's a good place to start.

About me: I am a Pisces, an INFJ (Meyers-Briggs), and an Empath. My eye color is green, I'm 5'7 and 160lbs. I am very sensitive to other people's energies, this is why I would not be good match for a person who is primarily negative, moody, or angry.  Yes, I can usually tell when people are being fake or lying and I do have some psychic abilities. I would possibly do better in relationships with people considered to be Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio and Capricorn and the personalities of ENFP, ENFJ, INTJ, INFP, and the INTP, although I am NOT fixated on this.  I have recently discovered that I am a medicine woman and I am learning about different herbs and their healing properties. I also am learning to make herbal medicines. Don't be fooled into thinking that just because I'm a Pisces that I'm flighty and overly emotional. I can be very grounded and I am super analytical. I consider myself to have above average intelligence and I need a partner that meets or surpasses me in that area. I definitely need stimulating conversation and can't stand being around shallow, uneducated, brainwashed people. Although, I will admit, at times in my own life I have been brainwashed. Now I am a truth seeker. I love history, science, archeology, writing, music, conspiracy theories, spiritualism, and such.  
You will have a hard time finding someone who can cook as well and creatively as I can.  I'm passionate about healthy foods and knowing where your food comes from and what's in it. I like to ferment foods, make medicines ( I can make ionic metals such as copper, zinc, and silver too). I love tools and can use them. I love working with my hands and I can start a fire and run a wood stove like nobody's business! I don't do well staying out in the cold weather for very long so not much on working outside or camping in the winter. I'm not afraid of guns, I own one and I'm a excellent shot. I've never hunted animals before but I would consider it a necessary task in order to survive. The only livestock I have experience with are chickens. I have some experience in having a permaculture garden. I am learning how to save seeds and I have quite a nice collection of seeds going.  I'd love to learn to identify wild medicine/eatable plants.  I could write a book on here but I will refrain. Let's just say have an eclectic range of interests and knowledge. I might be a bit of a nerd and I love to learn new things all of the time.  Oh, and one last thing; I play guitar and compose my own songs. I find that most guys won't read a lengthy profile description but if you have made it this far and find that we may have a lot of compatibility then send me a message and be sure to talk about something in my profile that intrigues you.  
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Hi Ms Chastity :) Awesome first post, welcome to Permies! Hope you find the man of your dreams! Lots of interesting men around here.
 
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Thanks Pearl! I appreciate you taking the time to comment.
 
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I also commented to bump your post up to the top, so more people see it :)
I'm also a non-standard female, so I'm curious what responses you'll get.
 
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Pearl,

So far, I've had messages from 2 persons of interest.
 
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Cool!

I hope you find the right one!
 
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Hi Chasity !
 What a thorough, beautiful writing about you, who & what you are desiring/manifesting ! I truly rhyme with & am with most you wrote , except, I was never in service & do not compose songs or play guitar !
I live on & own a precious oasis of peaceful energy of 22 acres in the Driftless Area of SW Wisconsin ! I am a good or better than that, old school, organic farmer, builder, baker, consultant, medicine man, herbalist,gentle old soul, Cancer sign, mid fifties, with my biological test age of appr. 40 years young, with a young , caring, compassionate heart & a deep thinking mind that can carry on a sparked conversation about many ideas. concepts ,etc. I have a 26 year old daughter , who lives in a bigger city , 3 hours away ! In 5 years of owning this place I have building wisely & strong most  !
I would love to communicate with you & explore the greater potentials that may be in store for us !  my e-mail is dellkoprime@frontier.com
    WISHING YOU A MOST SPECIAL DAY,
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Dell,

Thank you so much for your thoughtful message. Very nice pictures as well. I am currently talking to another gentleman from this site, but I do appreciate you reaching out to me. Good luck on your search. I wish you peace and happiness.

Chasity
 
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