Michael Adamson

Jim Morrison wrote:
Maybe if technology went down and people had to sweat and bleed for their food, maybe they would learn to 'be human' again.  

This is what it all boils down to.  I'll be up on my mountain doing my thing.  I might let a cute one make it up the driveway but she'll have to stay in the barn until she proves her worth, and loyalty.

Dating is collapsing because civilization is collapsing because domestication is dysevolution.

Another quick thought on the "what if they leave" question.

I think domestication is dysevolution, so as much as I want my next relationship to last a lifetime, I don't want it to be due to interdependence, or some kind of social contract, or just stubborn loyalty despite suffering and resentment.  I want it to be totally voluntary at all times.  The only way I can see this being a possibility is if both participants are sustainably self sufficient.  

Another big reason dating is hard for me is that I don't want someone tagging along in my space.  I want them to have their own offroad/offgrid capable RV, so if they're around, it's because they want to be.  My last long term relationship ended as amicably as imagibable, because when I finally came to the conclusion that her approach to survival was the source of our drama, and that change wasn't happening on her part, we both had our own RV's, so parting ways wasn't complicated at all.  I let her have anything that she thought was hers, or that we bought together that she wanted, loaded up my stuff, and I left.  The needless drama in my life instantly decreased to zero, and has stayed that way, while she's been bouncing back and forth between bad situations since.

I think semi-nomadic life is essential to positive human relationships, and beneficial to Nature.  In every sedentary shared housing project, resentment and annoyances just constantly build, and no matter how petty, they build up into disrespect, then the drama starts. Seems the same applies to relationships.

Ben Child wrote:

Michael Adamson wrote:A competition or some kind of trial would be a good test of any kind of friendship, but I like Ben's idea better.  I told myself that my next romantic interest will have to be a good friend and positive influence on my life for three years before I allow romance.  This would avoid the whole pretending you're something you're not phase.  Sadly though, it seems that one is thought of as a crazy person these days for believing in the sacredness of sexual energy and intenional procreation.  One woman said, "You mean we're not gonna..." and made a hand gesture as I was asking her to leave.  The pursuit of pleasure in our culture has eclipsed the pursuit of happiness.

As far as the caveman thing goes, it can sound like a dark subject, but I've read plenty of studies that suggest women are instinctinely turned on by fantasies of being "taken", and seen almost every woman I know date dumb, violent men that subconsciously scratch that itch.  So even though I was poking fun with the caveman thing, there might be something deeper to it.  The whole weak men creating bad times thing might have something to do with our cultutal mate selection trends.  Humans are funny animals.

Anyway, I found another funny picture to post.

Bro, if I was a woman , I think I’d be pretty impressed with your emotional intelligence ..I wish you were closer , cause I thing we’d be pretty good bros.. seems we are on a very similar path and I don’t see that often , at all

I've had a lot of alone time to think about stuff, and went through a bunch of trials that I could reflect on.  I'm also extremely interested in anthropology, evolutionary psychology/biology, and history, so studying all of that just made a bigger picture become apparent. Domestication is dysevolution. I don't know anyone in real life that thinks about anything deeply.  


I'm putting a new engine in my 6x6 skoolie this week and have been considering spending the winter in Quartzsite hoping to meet tribe, or at an offgrid property in Showlow, helping out a friend that's getting a series of surgeries.  I'm pretty heavily invested in AZ because I've spent years learning the land and building relationships here, and bought a mountain top with a gold mine on it, but I've seriously been considering liquidating and leaving because I've found no one here in twelve years that wants to live like me, and the few that have come to visit and possibly stay all turned out to be incompatible with offgrid desert life.  It's super tempting to head back East, but the bugs and population density are the deal killers for me every time I really start considering it.  It's definitely refreshing to know that there are kindred spirits out there somewhere though!

A competition or some kind of trial would be a good test of any kind of friendship, but I like Ben's idea better.  I told myself that my next romantic interest will have to be a good friend and positive influence on my life for three years before I allow romance.  This would avoid the whole pretending you're something you're not phase.  Sadly though, it seems that one is thought of as a crazy person these days for believing in the sacredness of sexual energy and intenional procreation.  One woman said, "You mean we're not gonna..." and made a hand gesture as I was asking her to leave.  The pursuit of pleasure in our culture has eclipsed the pursuit of happiness.

As far as the caveman thing goes, it can sound like a dark subject, but I've read plenty of studies that suggest women are instinctively turned on by fantasies of being "taken", and seen almost every woman I know date dumb, violent men that subconsciously scratch that itch.  So even though I was poking fun with the caveman thing, there might be something deeper to it.  The whole weak men creating bad times thing might have something to do with our cultutal mate selection trends.  Humans are funny animals.

Anyway, I found another funny picture to post.

Nicole Blank wrote:So Michael lol, I had to go look up what tv show you talked about, because I don't actually watch TV myself, but needless to say that's not at all what I had in my mind, when you said pitting our battlefield defenses against each other🤣 that makes it even funnier, but I don't think you'd want to step onto the same battlefield I pictured in my mind.

I don't watch tv at all either so I have no idea how the show actually turned out.

I think I understood the gravity of your battlefield reference though, but I align more towards battling the bathroom mirror poser losers that are breaking women's hearts, and the ones pushing the family/tribe destroying culture, than actually throwing down with and subduing a potential mate like a caveman.  I don't think that would go over well at all these days, no matter how fun it sounds.

I have to post this pic now, just for laughs.  

Ben Child wrote:

Nicole Blank wrote:Actually Ben, it's been a desire of mine for many years to creat a child's coloring book or books, I love working with children and how excited they are with artistic mediums.

That’s pretty cool. My writing is along the style of the chronicles of Narnia , kind of a continuation of that theme ..I love metaphors and parables . I think they work , sometimes , better than most alternatives ..anyway , I’m gearing my stories and my park into this theme, ..that’s the tik tok thing I got going ..right now , I’m trying to primarily make it good for people with disabilities , but I’m gonna use the same theme for childrens stories and coloring books

Maybe we were separated at birth.  Three of my books are a series.  There's Dust, a sci-fi like novel about a desert prison planet that's farmed for buried compost and water by elite that escaped to the moon and devolved into monsters.  The next one, ProtoTribal starts with the slaves discovering what they've been mining, and who for, and evolves into describing the wild permaculture ideas, diy greentech built from civ's waste, and the cultural experiments that result in the reforestation of Earth.  The last one in the series is Futile, where cities form again, psychopathy takes over, resources collapse, and the most psychopathic and wealthy survivors, that have forgotten their history, escape to the moon.  

I'm also working on a short version called ProtoTribal-A Post Civ Survival Manual that teaches people how to be free and sustainably self sufficient...and I've been thinking about illustrating it heavily and making it a coloring book for years...

Nicole Blank wrote:Michael - your post is awsome!😎

I resignate very much with choice number #3.

And for all that followed it, that's very funny. I've often thought wouldn't it be much easier finding a spouse if we just took it to the battlefield, played for keeps, like a ketch me if you can!🤣 lol!

Haha while this would probably be frowned upon it would be very funny! If anything this thread will start to give people some laughs.

Thought I was the only one who thought like this, if I was going to right a book about how I view dating/relationships, I may title it something like ( The unknown inner workings of an introverted mind)

Your post is funny!

Number 3 is definitely the most ethical, and interesting.

I'm halfway through writing a couple books.  Every time I meet someone that doesn't read, it deprioritizes writing though, so I'll be surprised if I ever finish them.

If I can't find a way to make something funny, I just don't want it in my head.

Ben Child wrote:

We might have been separated at birth , if your ever in Arkansas , stop by for armadillo burritos

I doubt I'll ever leave AZ, but if you're ever out this way, we could do javelina quesadillas!