Hello Deborah,
I enjoyed reading your post. It was well-written and insightful.
Yes, it takes a village. We all have undeniable needs in addition to food, water and shelter. I believe community is one of these needs as well as healthy forms of male and female energy. A guy needs guy friends and he, also, needs what only a woman can provide, but if he hasn't found the right woman, he still needs other non-romantic versions of female energy that a tribe or community provides. This is probably why I spend so much time outdoors. Mother Nature is another healthy form of this energy. I believe the same is true for a woman if she hasn't found the right man. When an individual is receiving these basic social needs, there is much less emphasis on the urgency to find a romantic partner which allows it to happen more naturally when it does. Love is not a game of musical chairs. Everyone stand up.
As stubbornly idealistic as I am, words like "perfect" and "utopia" are just ideas to me and ideas are only 25% (if not, less) of actually creating something. Lots of people have ideas. The internet is a virtual world based on them, but then comes reality, resources and action. This is the other 75%. All that aside, I still commend you on your vision. Family, biological or not, is what it's all about.
I've been to the Farm a couple times and it's impressive what they've done and how long they've been around. Just to be upfront, my relationship with something greater than myself is very important to me and I maintain it daily, but I'm not a religious person.
Thank you, again, for your inspiring post. I wish you all the best on your journey as well.
If you'd like to talk more about the kind of community that you'd like to create, I'd be interested in hearing what type of work you've done towards this goal. Maybe we could exchange email addresses. I finished up the season on a farm in Maine and I'm presently heading southwest. My general destination is New Mexico, but I'm not in any hurry. I'll most likely be rolling through Kentucky/Tennessee tomorrow.