Paul,I think the root of the problem lies not in what you are asking of people, but what you are offering. Any system the has a high potential to empower people (permaculture, work-trade, ecobuilding, etc.) is going to attract unpowered people. Unpowered people walk around with a trunk full of excuses why "the world" never lets them get ahead. Powered people see setbacks and unsavory tasks as chances to grow and learn.
Seems that the easiest way to weed out the unpowered is 1. apply Casie's toilet paper test, and 2. ask them what they have accomplished on their own, if they tell you about all the things they have tried, but "through no fault of their own" where thwarted by " the world", walk away quickly. Responsible, powered people will acknowledge at least partial blame for their failures.