You are just a few hours away from a lot of intentionally communities. I am currently staying at Cambia, which is in Louisa, VA. Within a few mile radius there are several different rural intentional communities, each with a different flavor to try out. I'd highly recommend that you look into IC's and see about getting a visitor period. You will have a chance to meet some amazing people, exposure to lifestyles that you never though possible in typical urban society, and get to work closely with people that can teach you all sorts of useful homesteading skills. Good luck, and I hope you find what you need to make the jump soon.
Jason