Two months ago my life changed drastically when my ex and I broke up. We had started our homesteading journey together and had so many hopes and dreams. It was fun and exciting planning our transition to self sufficiency. I thought we were happy. The breakup was very sudden and unexpected. The fight started over something small and escalated into an hours long argument where he made it clear he was not happy with this life or me, he was moved out the next day.
It has been a struggle. Not only am I coping with the sudden end of a 3 year long relationship but I am trying to manage running a farm by myself while working full time. He was retired from the military and was home all the time so he did most of the farm chores and I would help on my days off. Now I am doing everything myself. I will say, I am pretty proud of myself because I have been managing better than I thought with everything.
I live in an rv on 20 acres with my 3 house dogs and livestock (livestock guardian dogs, goats, pigs, chickens, ducks, and rabbits). I have electricity and septic but I get all of the water for me and my animals from a spring a few miles away. I no longer have access to a truck so I haul everything in my Subaru Crosstrek. All of my family lives in another state and I don’t really have any friends so I have no support here. I found permies a couple weeks after the breakup and have learned so much about how to make things easier and more efficient. The problem is getting around to doing all of it. There just doesn’t seem to be enough hours in the day. I have barely scratched the surface with homesteading and there is so much more I want to do but now I am questioning whether I can do it all or not. Thinking about all of the projects I have planned and realizing that now I have to do it all on my own, it is all quickly becoming overwhelming.
I love my life and absolutely do not want to give it up. I have just hit a rough patch and am feeling a little discouraged.
I’m sorry this turned out longer than I anticipated. I’m not really sure what I am looking for with this post, I guess I just needed to vent to someone who might understand some of the struggles I am facing.
I would love to hear from other single people on how you manage on your own. Or if anyone has any tips, suggestions, or words of encouragement please share ❤️ thank you for reading!
