> opening the house...
I relate here my experience at Green Gulch Farm Zen Center in Marin. By way of both a bad example and an example of what worked.
When I started at Green Gulch Farm in Marin long ago, I just walked in and asked where do I go/stay. Eventually I ended up w/floor space to crash, a knowledge of the eating schedule and a couple names to find (if possible) to get hooked up w/work. IOW, it was a laid back casual disjointed mess of 20-30 people all doing their own thing. Everybody was real nice but it seemed nobody actually organized anything, especially the noobs. There was a core of power (about 4-5 people) and a few Lutes but these people were always out of sight doing what they did. It was a chore to find a person who wasn't already busy, going somewhere _now_, or heading for the sack. IOW, noobs had a hard time finding _a_ place, much less _their_ place. The regular eating schedule and the mediation schedule kind of held the whole thing together. (Aside: In Budhist monasteries the boss is the Abbot and the #2 controlling the whole monastery is the head cook. They consider food, ie. what goes into them, that important.)
That was a mess, and nothing to boast about IMHO. I got on because I was uncouth enough to persist until I got what I wanted. However, there was a reason they could get away with this (well probably several...):
The "main buildings" where the kitchen and comforts were located had a couple rooms for rent; there were also two "cottages" (maybe three?) w/plumbing which were rented out. IIRC the rooms were nothing special, just clean w/a few Zen type chachkees (flumoxed the spell checker here <g>
scattered about. These were popular enough and the rates high enough that it covered basic expenses. It was a little Inn w/in the farm - it "sold" Quiet and Nature and Quaint and Exotic.
Now, here is the point: These guests were never a part of the community at all. They practically did not exist. Just ghosts that we'd come across once in a while on a walking path or see distantly while working the farm. They were welcome to participate in any/all ways if they chose to step up but no effort was put forth to "make available" anything to them. On the contrary, because they inevitably slowed things down from the normal laid back leisurely pace to something to give a snail road rage. They basically existed in the midst of a working farm and practicing monastery observing and soaking in atmosphere and immersing w/the crowd when they felt like it. And the corollary is that the "crowd" never infringed on the guests because the main buildings and the cottages were essentially off limits to all except the top honchos, guests and "maids". Even though they were only about 30 yards from the dormitory and monks' rooms where the "real people" existed. This was physically functional because the dorm had basic plumbing facilities, the hoi-poloi got regular meals and a place to crash (keep the animals fed and quiet) and there was a set of coin laundry machines available (off the kitchen, I think); the laundry could be a bit of a bottleneck on Fridays and weekends.
Perhaps, IF the basic physical realities can be aligned, the use of the house as a small Inn could give the best match between usage, civilized behavior, quiet and privacy. It _would_ require that basic amenities be available elsewhere for the hoi-poloi; not knowing your physical details, can't say how much trouble that would be. Perhaps throwing up a bunkhouse laundry/shower would be worth it... Perhaps not. I think it might be best if there were only one serious kitchen in regular use, but again, don't know your detail situation.
Philosophical aspects exceed this post. Market forces... I don't have a clue. I relate the above to share an example of something vaguely similar to Wheaton Labs situation that worked quite well in all it's imperfection.