Dear Theresa Whited,
Just to let you know where I come from: I'm retired military, I'm a certified NRA pistol instructor, and presently a concealed carry permit holder. I am a father of 9 (yes - nine) children under the age of 15, and I have a gun on my person, or within reach 24/7, 365. I'll start by stating that you have some very valid concerns. I'd like to address them one by one:
1) A very high number of people got shot with their own gun. - Actually, not really. Yes this does happen, but statistics will show that most of the time this is intentional (Suicide). Most any other scenario in which this could occur is preventable by training, which is of the utmost importance.
2) Your more likely to get robbed just for the gun. - This may or may not be true, and I don't think there's a study or statistic out there that can prove or disprove this theory. It is true that guns are stolen when not properly stored. I've never been a big fan of people just keeping a loaded handgun under the seat of their vehicle, for this reason. The key here is: if you're likely to get robbed at all, 1) keep a gun on your person or within arms reach, and/or 2) keep it properly secured and possibly disabled (there are very simple ways to disable a firearm by removing parts of it, and storing them in a different location.
3) Kids killing kids with parents gun. - Also preventable via proper storage, and training (yes - train your children on guns at the appropriate level for the appropriate age). As I mentioned, I have a house full of both children and guns, but if a gun is not literally strapped to my (or my wife's) hip, it is secured in a safe, where my children cannot access it.
4) Killing someone - You are absolutely correct that when you choose to own or carry a gun for personal defense of yourself, your loved ones, and your property, you must square with the notion that you may have to kill someone one day. The hard reality of this is that if you refuse to accept this responsibility, the alternative may be that you (and possibly your family) can be raped, kidnapped, tortured, sold/trafficked, and/or murdered. There is a very excellent book called "On Combat" by Dave Grossman, which explains the semantics of having to kill another human being for a just reason.
This is totally 100% your choice. If you do choose to own a gun, please: get training, and continue to train.
