J Scarnucci wrote:I have an older post on here from 2 years ago but I can't seem to edit or delete it, so I'll try again here.
Believe it or not I met my last serious relationship on here, so I guess Im crossing my fingers that lightning will strike twice.
I'm 42 and without children, but every bit of my DNA hopes to be a dad someday. (Soon!!!)
I live on a 12 acre homestead in So IN. I keep chickens and goats and try to garden, but tackling the chores is difficult alone.
I recently left a regular 9-5 job in Louisville to chase my dream of running a food truck. I built a wood fired pizza oven and have been working steadily at growing it the past few months.
I'm prone to making some dumb mistake in a relationship, or running with blinders on when it comes to a project, but I respond well to honest communication and criticism. I know that I don't know it all. Even if I act like I do.
Ok, here are some pics. I look forward to hearing from someone special soon.
Emily Elizabeth wrote:
Rob Kaiser wrote:
I was one of the many that tried to "force" polyamory on myself because it fit what I thought my ideologies were.
I was wrong.
Don't be afraid to change who you are as long as you can explain the why to yourself and the infinite creator.
Yes. Don't put an expectation on yourself to fit some prototype of what a freethinker is, a person into permaculture, a this or a that. We know who we are inwardly and we can open up to ideas but never in such a way where we alter ourselves to fit something that doesn't fit us. It never works.
For me, polyamory would never work. I used to watch two ducks at San Gabriel park in Texas when I went on morning walks and they clearly had a monogamous relationship. I nicknamed them Ralph and Alice because sometimes they looked a little contentious. For some animals/people this is what we want. All other ducks be damned, they had each other.
I think the worst thing is when people, being human and capable of developing feelings for other humans who they wish 'would change' don't accept at face value that someone is not going to be able to be what you want/need. I think we've all done this, thought we should invest time into someone and those things we aren't okay with will change-- and even though it's not our fault if the other person was manipulative or deceptive in some way, it is something we're all responsible for. Knowing there is something wrong and admitting it to ourselves and acting accordingly. It's an act of self love. Even if it's not a situation where the other person is 'doing something wrong', but it is a situation where it's wrong for you, and for what you know you need.