Cassie Langstraat wrote:
K Putnam wrote:I like the sentiment of the OP.
I dye my hair as a form of self-expression, not to meet someone else's standard of beauty. And I have tattoos. I am not pouring RoundUp in the soup.
And I am pretty damn tired of men judging a woman's personality by her appearance.
I use a lovely honey-oat face wash and finish with apricot kernel oil or natural-oil sunscreen in the summer. For an important event, I put on some mineral makeup and a touch of mascara. No apologies.
THIS. All of it. <3
I am actually quite surprised to see so much attention on this topic, and I've enjoyed reading everyone's perspectives.
I am of the camp that does not make assumptions about women based on how many layers of foundation are on their face. Though, I also do not automatically assume someone is healthy or unhealthy based on their weight or any factor really. I just truly have known WAY too many exceptions to the generalizations and stereotypes to ever allow myself to do that.
People are more eclectic and unique than we can ever understand. I don't know why we constantly try to put people in boxes.
"OMG LIPSTICK?! She's definitely a chemical-infused superficial biatch."
"Oh, look, we can see that one's freckles! She's must be a wholesome, wise earth goddess."
"Oh, well that one only has light mascara, so she's probably somewhere in the middle, maybe acceptable, but only if she composts."
Do you hear how absurd that sounds?
The fucked up thing is that we have you guys (not all of you, I realize) telling us that if we do wear make-up we are superficial, poison-lovers who just have no respect for our bodies or health, AND simultaneously we have the other half of the world telling us that if we don't wear it, we are unprofessional, unkempt, and that we just don't care about ourselves enough to show some effort.
It. Is. Exhausting.
I am so proud of all the people in the world and this thread who have taken enough time to truly think about what they, themselves want to do, rather than let other people dictate that. I, too wear makeup every once in a while because it is fun and playful, and I do that for myself. But all I'm saying is that it's hard, and we should cut some people some slack that might be mislead by all of the differing messages flying at them, and not judge their entire personality off such small things.
For example. Look at the two pictures below. Those are both of me. I didn't change radically in between the times that I took them. I am still me. They are the same person. Wouldn't you be sad if you missed out on getting to know a spectacular person because you assumed something about them that didn't end up being true at all? Just because they were wearing lipstick?