Thanks to all who took the time to reply.
When I moved here, there was a 28 ft travel trailer - a 3 season trailer - single pain windows and maybe an inch of insulation. I added a 10ft x 26 ft room which has 4 inch urethane panels in the walls and ceiling. I also added those panels all the way around the travel trailer and a few inches into the ground, just to prevent any drafts - and then house wrap around everything. Built a roof over the trailer and addition with extra insulation above the trailer as well.
I knew the shack was not the best, and I wasn't expecting round the clock t-shirt comfort, but I thought the stove would do better than it was.
Thanks to you folks, I think I can expect better performance when the bench is completely dry. I have made the bench so that I can take off the end and extend the pipes another 3 ft - so that will add 6 ft of piping - but I might have trouble digging more clay and sand now, so that might have to wait for next year.
Last winter with a barrel stove was pretty rough - getting up every 3 hours to refill the stove and damp it down - was still only 15 to 20 F when I woke up. I've improved the insulation and draughts a bit this summer and built the rocket stove. I'm aware that the cabin could be greatly improved, but this is just a temporary home until I decide what and where to build.
Based on the suggestions, my cushions are now on a 9 ft x 3 ft x 3/4 inch OSB with 2x4 crosspieces underneath to allow some of the bench heat to escape into the room. The bench is built against the trailer wall, but I have now decided that I don't really need the trailer much, so I've closed it off for the winter.
Today - for the first time in a week, we have blue skies and full sun. The batteries are charging nicely, and my little greenhouse made from 5 old thermopane patio doors is up over 80F so the stove is off and the doorway to the greenhouse is open.