Jay Angler wrote:I've been told by reliable people, that "outsiders" can have a rough time breaking into the "Village" community.
I would add that not only that but community is typically invisible to those outside of it. Once someone breaks in, it starts to become clear that it exists, but before this, you are naturally going to be clueless, except for some light shining around the edges. That is because the community consists of relationships, not institutions: institutions are highly visible in their nature, but they are not community.
It makes me wonder about intentional communities and eco villages for this reason—if you can see it from the outside how is it actually community? What you can see and talk about is just the dress, the raiment of community. If people these days are not being exposed to actual community and try to make one by getting together and living together, will they be able to do it? There is a saying about how most intentional communities fail. Maybe that is because the people making them, do so because they were deprived of real community and try to recreate what they can see from the outside without the opportunity to understand what’s inside.
I believe that community works because/when everyone has their own space that’s enough for them. How this gets figured out is trial and error. Figuring out what too close or too far is…I have some relationships that are too close and are causing me major trouble. But taking up spears and driving away the people with whom I am frustrated is
not going to result in healthy community. Calling each other bad people, getting on each others’ nerves, stepping on heels and toes… that is a fast route to community death! If you can get a little farther away you might notice you can still love people at a distance. It may be that you can’t, but these things happen and we try to make the best of it. We also need to recognize when we need others despite their flaws and give thanks for what they give us.
Writing about this makes me so happy…even just writing about it. Community is such a treasure, there is nothing to compare. I am grateful for being present in it.
The issue of why it’s hard to get into community is that there’s no “community” Thing to get into. It is like going into “The Mountains”. You go hike up to a little hill and ask, am I in the mountains yet? No, you’re on a hill, but there are some big mountains over there you couldn’t see before. Then you hike up the big mountain. Am I in the Mountains? No, you’ve just climbed one big mountain. You’re on A mountain but not The Mountains. The same is true with any of the numerous mountains and valleys. You can sure tell when you’re
not in the mountains or any mountain, though. There is no destination or center, you are where you are and community is built around that. Community is the most natural thing.
I might have more to say… getting tired though