Ben Child

Michael Adamson wrote:A competition or some kind of trial would be a good test of any kind of friendship, but I like Ben's idea better.  I told myself that my next romantic interest will have to be a good friend and positive influence on my life for three years before I allow romance.  This would avoid the whole pretending you're something you're not phase.  Sadly though, it seems that one is thought of as a crazy person these days for believing in the sacredness of sexual energy and intenional procreation.  One woman said, "You mean we're not gonna..." and made a hand gesture as I was asking her to leave.  The pursuit of pleasure in our culture has eclipsed the pursuit of happiness.

As far as the caveman thing goes, it can sound like a dark subject, but I've read plenty of studies that suggest women are instinctinely turned on by fantasies of being "taken", and seen almost every woman I know date dumb, violent men that subconsciously scratch that itch.  So even though I was poking fun with the caveman thing, there might be something deeper to it.  The whole weak men creating bad times thing might have something to do with our cultutal mate selection trends.  Humans are funny animals.

Anyway, I found another funny picture to post.

Bro, if I was a woman , I think I’d be pretty impressed with your emotional intelligence ..I wish you were closer , cause I thing we’d be pretty good bros.. seems we are on a very similar path and I don’t see that often , at all

Nicole Blank wrote:Sebastian, I found your post full of wisdom, thank you! Those are very good thoughts.

I've been through a lot of life, looking at me you'd never know it, but I have, I've just never found anyone who could handle that.

And Ben lol! I guess I walked into that question but yes actually, I'd go anywhere if it was with the right person. I don't love money and I don't love stuff, I just came to realize this year, that I don't want to be alone forever. Growing up I was fine being single, I loved it actually! But I hit 30 and just realized wouldn't it be more fun to do your favorite things with someone, or just be with someone doing nothing.

I get that , for sure ..I’ve done a lot of traveling , alone ..climbed up the great divide a couple years ago ..it was such an incredible experience , but I wanted to see someone else’s face , as they looked and shared of the experience ..some things are just better, together ..I imagine ..I love my alone time , but sometimes my own company , is lacking

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Nicole Blank wrote:

For anyone's clarification...I do not wish to be hit over the head and dragged into a cave.😉

But would you desire to go into a cave , without such pressures? This area is known as the land of a thousand caverns ..they are everywhere ..some hold secrets , that few have seen.

Nicole Blank wrote:So after going back and reading my post implying a battlefield setting, as a couples test, and contemplating on the posts that followed, I was utterly mortified by what it must have looked like I was implying. I thought about removing that post because it's not written very well to reflect what I was trying to convey, but I thought about it and decided, that's life, it doesn't always come out sounding the right way. However I was mortified and would like to clarify what I was trying to convey.

I'll bring it to a more personal level, as I feel I would communicate my point better, when it comes to dating or relationships, I've been on perfect Hollywood movie dates, where everything was in a sterilized, controlled, clean environment, and I've found myself sitting across the table wondering to myself, you know everything is so perfect here in this moment, but would you really stick around if it wasn't. What if everything was a total mess, what if everything was falling apart and it was completely out of our control, would you stay with me?

I've been around lots of pretty boys, and I've thought to myself, you would kill over and die if you ran out of hair gell, or total apocalypse lost your cell phone, would you really stay with me if things got bad.

In today's day and age, in my opinion that is, it doesn't seem like very many couples stay together, that's scary to think about when your trying to find your special someone, the thought is always there in the back of my mind...would you leave me if stuff got rough?

I've often wondered, what is the deciding factor in finding that perfect spouse who would stick with you no matter what. The age old question, is love really enough for you?

Which leads me to what I was trying to convey using a battlefield setting, it's a setting that is full of unknowns, it's unpredictable and it's a mess, your chances of survival go up if you have a partner and stick together, work together like a team, so many people (guys) have told me they desire someone to work as a team with them, a team stays together. How do you know if you've actually found that person that will stay?

I've seen so many relationships break apart, or unhappy couples, it's very scary to think about even attempting a relationship/marriage, on the flip side of that I've seen couples make it through so much hell I marvel at them, and I want that🙂 I've just always wondered is there a test or deciding factor to who will make it and who won't.

That's what I was trying to imply earlier, it came out sounding very wrong and I'm very sorry about that, I don't always convey what I mean perfectly, it was my fault.

For anyone's clarification...I do not wish to be hit over the head and dragged into a cave.😉

I can relate to most of that ..loyalty is a rare thing these days. .For me, I just decided I wasn’t gonna start off dating anyone ..I’m gonna be friends long enough to get a realistic idea of how we get along , without the expectations of conformity ..it’s worked well , in the sense that I have good female friends , that I’m thankful for. I saw, with time , that there wasn’t this overwhelming attraction , so things just stay there.. I’m either gonna have something epic or I’m gonna stay perpetually single ..

Big hugs for everyone 😂

Nicole Blank wrote:Actually Ben, it's been a desire of mine for many years to creat a child's coloring book or books, I love working with children and how excited they are with artistic mediums.

That’s pretty cool. My writing is along the style of the chronicles of Narnia , kind of a continuation of that theme ..I love metaphors and parables . I think they work , sometimes , better than most alternatives ..anyway , I’m gearing my stories and my park into this theme, ..that’s the tik tok thing I got going ..right now , I’m trying to primarily make it good for people with disabilities , but I’m gonna use the same theme for childrens stories and coloring books

Nicole Blank wrote:It was brought to my attention, when I posted that I'm an artist and ink is my favorite, it may be assumed I'm referring to tattoos, so I shall clarify, I'm an artist I draw and I prefer to ink my work, I love how vibrant the colors of ink show up in my artwork, also for anyone's interest, I do not have or plan to get any tattoos, although if you have them I don't have a problem with that.

Could you create a intricate coloring book ?

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Ha, and I have bulging veins in my forearms , too..f I wasn’t a Christian , I would be a pagan ..nature is my church..it’s the perfect artful expression of the Creator ..

OMgoddess that is too funny! and..........I tell people all the time, "nature is my church"

Yea , it’s a bit of a reoccurring theme ..an attraction to woman , with a bent towards paganism , cause I totally get the overwhelming appreciation of nature ..I’m just so into my belief in the artist of it all , …I’m a hard stretch , for most

I believe when the time is right you will find your person All you have to do is be ready for her.

I’d like that .it would have to be the one in my minds eye ..I’ve dreamed of her and seen her, in a manner . She’s covered in constellations  and lives in the forest . She talks to animals and they talk back

That is beautiful. Have faith and you will find each other one day.

I hope so ..I mean I’m pretty content now, but I do get lonely ..not so much that I’m gonna compromise ..I’ve done that in the past . No I figure if I’m that eanmoured with a freckled being , then that’s probably an indicator , that if there is this one , she probably is covered with them ..that’s what I tell myself , we shall see ..

Michael Adamson wrote:

Ben Child wrote:

We might have been separated at birth , if your ever in Arkansas , stop by for armadillo burritos

I doubt I'll ever leave AZ, but if you're ever out this way, we could do javelina quesadillas!

Like you , I’m not so inclined to leave the forest , anymore ..I did a good deal of traveling , in the past , but I’m content to stay put ..

On the book writing thing ..I also engage in writing ..social media has never been my thing ..I’ve never face booked , etc, but I’m doing stories on Tik Tok ..it’s the parchment of the day , and it’s really going well for me ..you might check it out and see if this idea works for you .
Tik tok   land_of_imagination ,if your so inclined

Nicole Blank wrote:Who Ben, Michael or both of us lol! I like burritos! 😁

Both, of course