I hear you.
I believe small autonomous villages trading with each other are the future. They'll need to be resilient, self-reliant, and basically off-grid. Our energy, water, and sanitation needs have to be scaled to that level too. People will accuse me of apocalyptic thinking, but I think it's good to start wasting less fresh water before it's already spent.
Build high efficiency, low cost homes out of materials like straw bale in a well planned communal arrangement, ie in a round with all the kitchens facing a yard and play area, enabling collaborative child supervision.
Have a village library for everyone's books and media to share. There are art and music studios, pottery, wood and metal shops, a free store for recycling everyone's extra stored materials. Everyone has a role on a Shop or Craft guild for efficient town management of repairs, farms, and goods. There's a physical storefront for interacting with the outside world.
Drawbacks will include a lot less luxuries, like cheap bananas. But they were always subsidized by human exploitation so 🤷🏽♀️
And we will still require outside specialty care, like doctors, but what's important to you?
