Wow, you must have some seriously powerful critters growing!!
Do you have some abrupt temperature changes happening? Breaking a mason jar is some pretty hardcore business. I don't think I've ever seen kefir overflow, so if I had it in mason jars i think i would just leave the lid very loosely on, not closed per se but able to vent. When I have grown it I've just covered it with a cloth, like i do my kombucha.
As for your milk kefir- I am not sure I agree about the raw milk vs the pasteurized (or whatever), of
course the company will not encourage you to use raw and probably feels bound to say that. It could be that there was some other bacteria that got in there, I have had both kinds of kefir sort of
poop out unexpectedly when I made it. Not sure if it was contamination or maybe their life cycle was just done (had the same happen with yogurt, after a while it just didn't work right anymore and I needed to get a new starter going). The kefir was sort of a relief for me, since the grains were multiplying so much and I was having a hard time keeping up....
Happy cleaning and at least the next ferment is never far away!