We’ve been off grid since 2014, family of 4. Our best water heating has proven to be a 50 gallon electric hot water heater plumbed to our old kitchen queen cook stove heater coil, then a mixing valve, then to a propane fired on demand hot water heater.
In the deep winter the propane never kicked on because the incoming water was already hot. Shoulder seasons it would heat minimally until the summer when it did all the work.
We have since built a walker continental rocket stove and LOVE IT. The only setback is no water coil. Since we only run it a couple hours a day on average it doesn’t pay to put one in. OUR PROPANE USAGE IS CRAZY.
Next step is to hook up the panels we just got directly to the water heater coils in the tank (which have never been used) and crank up the temperature. Hopefully that will help with the propane usage.
Our two cents.