Ben Child

the picture ,of you and the goat, its quite endearing .

interesting ..now I have this urge to go dig some up , today . I like the analogy .

I believe that was a western diamond back

yea. it's a bummer , but what do you do ?

well I'm single again and I'm staying that way

Cody Hahn wrote:

Thanks Bro, life has gotten even better with a partner . I was a hermit for the longest

Nothing wrong with being a hermit for a good long stretch. Out of curiosity Ben, did you manage to meet your woman and now wife here on Permies (no need to say whom)? Or did you cross paths with her in the flesh somewhere from the get-go, perhaps right over in the Ozarks? Interested in how you finally found her. Maybe she found you.

I actually had given up even trying , stopped dating , and had embraced being single. I have a good friend , that had another friend  ,wanting to live separate from society . She came here and never left . Best thing ive ever known. it was very organic

Cody Hahn wrote:Ben! Dude, good to hear from you on here. It's been a while, but man what a lovely update and outcome for you. Finally! And married? Man, that is awesome. Glad for you man.

Hope things have been playing out well on that Ozarks homestead you've been plugging away at for the last little while. I remember looking through some of those photos a couple years ago and man, what a lovely location and region.

Thanks Bro, life has gotten even better with a partner . I was a hermit for the longest

a short update. ive been off the sight for awhile.  I found me a great woman almost two years ago and got married a little over a year ago . it goes to show ya, regardless of how different you are , there is a match for ya, somewhere. not looking for a mate, but we would welcome some well adjusted , low drama , stoic minded individuals , that want to help shepherd the flocks, milk goats, etc..

Michael Adamson wrote:A competition or some kind of trial would be a good test of any kind of friendship, but I like Ben's idea better.  I told myself that my next romantic interest will have to be a good friend and positive influence on my life for three years before I allow romance.  This would avoid the whole pretending you're something you're not phase.  Sadly though, it seems that one is thought of as a crazy person these days for believing in the sacredness of sexual energy and intenional procreation.  One woman said, "You mean we're not gonna..." and made a hand gesture as I was asking her to leave.  The pursuit of pleasure in our culture has eclipsed the pursuit of happiness.

As far as the caveman thing goes, it can sound like a dark subject, but I've read plenty of studies that suggest women are instinctinely turned on by fantasies of being "taken", and seen almost every woman I know date dumb, violent men that subconsciously scratch that itch.  So even though I was poking fun with the caveman thing, there might be something deeper to it.  The whole weak men creating bad times thing might have something to do with our cultutal mate selection trends.  Humans are funny animals.

Anyway, I found another funny picture to post.

Bro, if I was a woman , I think I’d be pretty impressed with your emotional intelligence ..I wish you were closer , cause I thing we’d be pretty good bros.. seems we are on a very similar path and I don’t see that often , at all

Nicole Blank wrote:Sebastian, I found your post full of wisdom, thank you! Those are very good thoughts.

I've been through a lot of life, looking at me you'd never know it, but I have, I've just never found anyone who could handle that.

And Ben lol! I guess I walked into that question but yes actually, I'd go anywhere if it was with the right person. I don't love money and I don't love stuff, I just came to realize this year, that I don't want to be alone forever. Growing up I was fine being single, I loved it actually! But I hit 30 and just realized wouldn't it be more fun to do your favorite things with someone, or just be with someone doing nothing.

I get that , for sure ..I’ve done a lot of traveling , alone ..climbed up the great divide a couple years ago ..it was such an incredible experience , but I wanted to see someone else’s face , as they looked and shared of the experience ..some things are just better, together ..I imagine ..I love my alone time , but sometimes my own company , is lacking