Hey Jojo,
First rule of permaculture, your well aged, massive alder has a name and it’s name is “Pliny”... Any large distinguished or solitary Alder must be named “Pliny”... “Pliny the Alder”... You can blame the Romans for that rule

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Ok... silliness aside...
You have some inconsiderate neighbors... Let’s try to mitigate that... Can you slope your land towards that toxic neighbor? Perhaps that means building more soil and raising your own land a bit. But if you can slope towards them, then water will wash their toxic stuff right back at them. I have deployed this tactic in many a suburban backyard landscape with very good success.
Regarding your plants not liking wet feet (Hazelnut, Mulberry, and PawPaw all like well drained soil). So... Can you plant them in a bog? Sure, absolutely... Avocado trees love well drained soils and are often planted on poorly drained soil/land by planting them on 1 meter (3 foot) high mounds. And they do very well, as do other trees raised up in a similar manner. I’ve seen trees growing on top of 6’ high (2 meters) hugelkultur mounds (which is destined to settle as it decomposes, but the trees seemed happy at the time)
But let’s consider this “standing water much of the winter” area for just a moment... You mentioned you had ducks and ducks love ponds. If you dig a small pond in the low spot, and that gives you excavated dirt to help raise the rest of it. Be sure to slope some land towards the pond and you end up with a duck pond that gets filled by nature and allows everything else to stay high and dry (and you get to add water plants... Woo hoo!!!). If you don’t want a pond, then a French drain might be something else to consider (pipe the water to some other place).
That fence line with the blackberry and morning glory sounds like a great spot for a large (very hot) compost pile. Or perhaps the duck pond or water feature of some sort. Perhaps it’s a good spot for a chicken coop or a garden shed or small greenhouse. When life hands you lemons, build infrastructure (or something like that).
Your garden sounds beautiful and very lovely but I’m not able to visualize it very well, so I’m just throwing ideas against the wall and hoping something sticks long enough to inspire you.
As for the rest... It sounds like you are doing what you can, where you can, and how you can... So great job on that! Every piece of land has its own set of rules and as stewards, we are wise to respect them. Fighting against that can be a difficult battle. Your land sounds like it wants a pond or some other way to control the water. That can be as simple as changing a slope or adding one. Regardless, you are doing a great job and hopefully having fun doing it.
I hope something here helps in some way and I wish you the best of luck!