John F Dean

Oh yes, consider posting a little more on this site.  Posting in the personals is a great idea.  Making more regular posts shares a little more about who you are, your challenges, and how you respond.  

Some of us thrive in less social settings.  Even so, at least for me, it is good to have a partner. But meeting people who can fill that role can be a challenge. I suggest examining your socializing patterns and add one opportunity to what you are doing. …such as a gardening club, bee keeping club, etc.  i posted this observation a couple of days ago, but it seems to apply here was well, “I f you keep doing what you are doing, you will keep getting what you have got.”  Make a change to you present life patterns. It doesn’t have to be a huge one.

As a general comment, I have often encountered people frustrated by trying to interpret success rates.  If someone speaks of a procedure having a 98% success rate a few other issues come into play. The first is how success is defined.  A procedure to improve mobility may have a 98% success rate, but what if success is regarded as a 1% gain in mobility?  Another problem that people seldom realize until they are on the wrong end is that even if a procedure does have a 98% success rate, if you end up in the 2%, then the procedure, for you, had a 100% failure rate.

I found myself dealing with a woman who was very upset the doctors lied to her.  Her husband had a stroke and heart failure. He had spent 10 days in intensive care.  The primary physician, the day after her husband was admitted, told her it would take a miracle for him to recover. Her complaint was that the doctors had spoken with her about pulling the life support.  She insisted they had never told her how serious the situation was. You see, she regarded miracles as happening all the time.

I was thinking back to a college student who did a year abroad.   This was back in the 80s.  She made speaking rounds of the various clubs and churches in the area and raised several thousand $$$.   Of course, when the year was over, she returned to those organizations with a follow up presentation.

Hi Rico,

One of the many discoveries of my young adulthood was that sometimes a private school can be cheaper than a public one.  As you make your decisions be sure to weigh in all direct and indirect costs.

“If you keep doing what you are doing, you will keep getting what you have got.”  Change is needed for improvement.  Change makes people who implement change unpopular.  This is not to imply all change is good. It does mean that if you are pushing for change expect that some people will dislike you. I find that people who thrive on being liked make poor advocates and administrators.

Hi Anne,

I can’t remember the last time I sent a post card.  If forced, I guess I would say I use email in those situations.

Hi Douglas,
Yes, as I posted elsewhere…I think, my Nissan Murano CVT was past 150,000 miles. My plans were to drive it till it dropped. Then I looked up the life expectancy of a Nissan Murano CVT.  It was clear it was time to begin shopping.

There is mathematical evidence that if you sin you will be caught only 50% of the time

sin 90  = cot 45

How many introverts does it take to screw in a lightbulb? …Why does this have to be a group activity?