We are telling you that it cannot be done the way you are want it to, then explaining other alternatives (workarounds) to the problem that will net you the same result.
Heating water is VERY easy, heating water so that it does not flash to steam and blow up is another thing altogether. Heating water up so that it does not scald your family and cause third degree burns is yet another.
That means controlling the water and there is a lot to that. Kevin and I are basically describing the same thing, just with different applications. I was suggesting each component required and he was describing a unit with all the controls already in place.
Basically what you are suggesting is turning two systems, the Jean Pain mound heating system, and your families domestic hot water needs into one, and that just cannot be done. What you need is a boiler mate hot water tank, which is two tanks in one. Even then you need the controls to efficiently operate it.
It does not matter if heating the water is done with a Jean Pain mound, a propane boiler, or a rocket stove, you cannot drink water from a closed loop system, nor fail to protect it by pressure relief valves. If you ever smelled rancid boiler water, you would know why. However in a lot of ways a propane, natural gas, electric, or oil heating system is FAR easier to plumb because the appliance itself can be regulated. I can shut down any of those units in an over-heat situation which cannot be done in a Jean Pain mound. It is just going to remain hot for months, probably hotter than what you or your family wants.
Doing what you want is entirely possible because hydronic systems can do so much. I am ideally situated for it at my own house, but it is VERY expensive. My boiler was only $1800, my entire system with all the controls was $10,000. In other words $8200 went just to control everything. There may be some cheaper alternatives, but here is a link to show the power of water getting too hot in an electric hot water heater. As I said, they can, and do fail...
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