I have ALWAYS wanted to live in the country and have a large garden full of food and lovely flowers. After waiting forever, we have retired and moved to the most wonderful home in the Sierras. My poor husband did not know that I have been planning and dreaming about this Food Forest for the 1 year before our move. I did not know that deer fencing was SO expensive but he had it done. He must have taken out 100 trees so that I can have the sun I need. Tons of work and he did it. I planted trees in his way, not wanting to wait, and he works around them. He's even learning the names and what they look like so when I say... "put some Diatomaceous earth on the peppers" he knows where to go. I love this guy.
Isn't it wonderful to have an awesome partner. I am in a very similar situation and we are in our 3rd year and my husband is getting more and more involved in the gardening every year. He is slowly learning which plants are which and he loves having fresh berries so he has largely taken on the maintenance of them. He happily puts up fences, mulches with wood chips and does any and all the digging I need. A bee hut, garden pond, and small green house made from recycled windows are the next group of projects on his too do list.
My hubby has never gardened and this year with the truck/market garden he has found out more about it than he ever wanted to know. Still. He is dutiful, runs the compost piles, does fetch-a-trailer for me (either bring an empty or haul a full one) and the like. I do feed him fresh food in return so. He still marvels at the screen house that I built 98% by myself, in ways he would never fathom, and I built it 'me high' (I am 5'5" he is 6'. I can walk through the center supports, he can't even stand up straight in there) [a few gal gardening friends, have taken my plans and built their own, loving the fact that most of it can be done solo-just the putting the center frames with the top calf panel UP takes two. And that it's woman designed and built and takes a minimum of power tools]
He asked me early in the year for anniversary (late spring) did I want a cruise or an eternity band? I opted for large gift certificate to the tractor/farm supply place. Which I got. I used it to get my new fence parts. That is best hubby!
Also, if I have to go away, I can set everything up and he learns what to water, when, etc and is diligent in trying. Late spring we had a freak '50 year' blizzard and snow dump (normally around New Year's) that took the power out plus broke the trees out. And he had all my home start bedding plants to deal with. He managed. I was on a bus on my way across country at the time because my mom was in hospice. I came home to his heroic efforts.
It takes the best partner to not really understand but still be there!
When we were looking for our new home the realtor was telling me that I could not and would not find a place with "everything" that I wanted! But here we are with great soil.... well It needs to be improved but I am up to it. Our/my plans are for getting the basic building done. We need the shed built but my husband also has plans to use the pines he took down to build me a small place to put the tools down in the garden which is far from the house.I would love a bee hut, pond and the green house made of windows would be epic! I have asked for SO much and he keeps giving.
I built my OWN screen house, it started as a skinned greenhouse, then I added two more sections after moving it across the yard and covered it with shade cloth. I built it my height which means I can walk through the central supports but he's several inches too tall to stand up in it. He's helping install the rest of the RGGS and mister system and living with the fact I'm 5'5" and he's 6'0"... and has to stay ducked plus try not to brain himself on the central supports. He is still cooking me compost and told me it's steaming good today... it costs him allergies from the stuff, but he dutifully turns and waters and adds and fusses with the compost pile for me. That is dedication, to me.