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i just want to post a message of hope or good vibes or whatever you want to call it,
for all the so-called 'single' people out there:
accept you are already in relationship with everyone. period.
whether that 'other' member of the people is near or far from you,
is really a projection in your head.

Accept that this time that you live as a monk,
if you like to think of it like that,
is okay. It might be for the rest of your life,
it doesn't matter.

Better you be happy with today and present in the moment,
then dreaming away what you could do now to stay connected
with your chest, with your power.
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Location: Wellington, New Zealand. Temperate, coastal, sandy, windy,
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I'm not into 'relationships' or having kids, but I'm Aunty to a variety of children and plan to use my singleness as a chance to develop (platonic) relationships that don't fit the conventional modern nuclear thing.
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Location: North Georgia / Appalachian mountains , Zone 7A
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There is that social and evolutionary drive to pair up and make new humans obviously, and the "two heads are better than one" reasoning (two working together form a mutual support group) reasoning, but why do we NEED to find mates?
Humans are obviously social animals but I think some people are more so than others. Many "recharge" through connections to other people, they define themselves through others. I know some guys and gals that cannot stand being single, they will jump into an ill-advised relationship just to prevent being alone.

I've been single most of my life and it used to really bother me, but at the same time over the years I've noticed that I feel relief when I get home away from other people. I'm not a hermit, I do have close friends and I enjoy good conversation and companionship, but to "recharge" I have to have solitude.
Another point is that through computer social networks (like this site) people
can connect to other like minded people and have meaningful social interaction, the need to have others physically there in person is not necessary all the time.

One positive I have found through having so much "me time" is the opportunity I have had to accomplish things that relationships or family life would possibly prevent.  I've learned to play musical instruments, learn another language fluently, travel extensively,etc.
I can fill my living room with plants, trees, germinating seeds, etc. in the winter, there is no one to tell me "take those dirty things out in the garage! you are staining my wood floors! eek! blah blah blah! there's leaves everywhere! Why can't you be like normal people and sit and watch TV with me?!?!?
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I agree. Ive wasted so much time trying to get to know strangers on internet dating sites. I work in a remote area with few opportunities for dating. But is so much to do and learn without spending time looking for something or someone who may or may not even exist.
Nobody loves their life or their status everyday. The trick is being where you are at.
Happy digging everyone!
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i think thats why its not the most popular link are relationships sustainable? energy efficient? or is it better to get love directly from the solar plexis panels of the sun that shines every day. awww
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