From someone who has spent a good part of my adult life in intentional community settings, my one bit of advice beyond what others have already posted (and I totally agree about the site ic. org as a great place to start!) is to not be too hasty and make a bad decision that way. Try to take or make some time to tour around several communities in your area of interest, maybe even volunteer at some. Say a week or so at each. What you want to catch is first, a general vibe of whether that life will really work for you (especially as contrasted with homesteading on your own), and secondly, the vibe of that particular community or type of community....they vary a good deal from one to another. Especially pay attention to how newcomers would be incorporated in, and the dynamics between private ownership or stakeholding versus communal ownership. Be aware that life happens, not only to yourselves, but to communities, and not all of them last forever. Ask yourself, and the people you visit....what happens if 10 or 20 years down the line you or they decide that it just isn't working any more, what then? Some communities can do this gracefully, evolving into a collection of neighbors who stay friendly, whereas others....well, speaking from experience it can get pretty spectacular.