I agree with Paul in context to the Dalai Lama, in the fact that if he is speaking then he is displaying ego, yet he professes the practice of eliminating and overcoming ego.
It seems as though we have created a polarized decision in reference to having "ego," or being free from it. To have an ego would mean to take on a sense of individuality and autonomy, but to be free of ego would mean we are participating in wholeness and interconnectedness. It's as if we have limited the concept to "either/or" rationale. EITHER you can be separate from the world around you OR you can be connected in the wholeness of everything at all time.
In the attempt to seek balance, maybe we need to operate in a manner that encourages "separate connectedness." So, we will empathize with an individual who is sick and suffering, yet not to a degree that if that individual dies we can no longer live ourselves.