Alder thanks for the reply.
sorry it didn't work out for you and your wife.
But the way we look at approaching this is we didn't find each other the first. I had a few boy friends and allen had a some girl friends.
We want this tho it is what we believe will make us happier.
We love each other more everyday and are not looking to replace either one of us just add some one else to love and take care of us as we take care of them.