We live on 1 acre in southwest New Mexico, and most of it we have turned in to garden area and adding more to it all the time. We also raise Nubian goats and chickens. We are trying to become more self sufficient as we can get with out totally living off grid. Will be adding solar for water heating and lighting at a later time. The garden we raise isn't certified organic as we don't like "Big Brother "telling us what we can do and how to do it, but we do not use any chemicals to control pest or the weeds we do it as natural as possible. We plant a wide variety of stuff in our garden that will grow well in this area. What we do grow is put up for our use and sold at our local Farmers market this includes the eggs the girls give us, unfortunately NM doesn't allow us to sell the fresh milk and cheese that we get from the goats, what isn't sold or put up we give to those less fortunate than our selves. We use many different ways to have usable soil to plant our garden raised beds, tilled ground, buckets, and barrels will be installing a small aquaponics system inside the house this summer that will allow us to grow fresh lettuce, spinach, and other leafy vegetables. The growing season here is fairly long we plant most the crops mid April and continue in most years to harvest crops till end of October and some even till mid November. We still have two teenage boys living at home but they are almost grown 11th and 9th grade. Allen is 41 and Debra is 40. Well that's enough about us for now.
We are looking for a wife someone who can and will help Debra in the garden, with the animals, house hold duties, and day to day life activities. Not just a hand but a wife, someone who can grow to love us and spend the rest of our lives together. If you don't know any thing about gardening ,food preserving (canning, dehydrating, freezing, and or pickling), or tending to the animals that's ok we are more than willing to teach you.
If your interested in learning more please leave a way to contact you so we can get to know one another.
This is an audacious post in several respects, and for starters I admire you for putting yourselves out there like this. I wonder if you've read some of the other threads on here about polyamory. I've contributed to a couple over the years.
My partner and I have always been interested in this, and in 2009 we made a move on it, communicating with an interested young woman on line who considered moving out to our homestead with her young daughter. Several issues were up to solve themselves....extra help, youthful energy, more love and intimacy, and an heir as we are childless. But it didn't last beyond one two-week visit and was no end of drama! My partner is now completely burned on the notion and doesn't want anyone else around...no interns, no wwoofers, no classes, no farm tours, etc.....and certainly not anything more intimate than that! Not sure what I might suggest to diminish the chances of this happening to you......There are people out there...actually sizeable groups of them, that can make this work. Often they share a strong spiritual practice of some sort, and children and alternative child-rearing are often a priority.....
Anyway, just putting it out there....we tried it and it spectacularly didn't work. But monogamy also spectacularly doesn't work an awful lot of the time, too......
Alder thanks for the reply.
sorry it didn't work out for you and your wife.
But the way we look at approaching this is we didn't find each other the first. I had a few boy friends and allen had a some girl friends.
We want this tho it is what we believe will make us happier.
We love each other more everyday and are not looking to replace either one of us just add some one else to love and take care of us as we take care of them.
We are still looking for the one woman who wants to be our wife.
Garden is in the ground everything is coming up and got cabbage garlic and onions ready for harvest.looking to be a good year looking to share the bounty.
Not applying for the position as I have a very settled life here in Texas, but I want to commend your patient perseverance in this. You make a very attractive presentation and I'm sure you will find your special someone in time.
Hiya, I am not the one you are looking for as they won't let me into USA - I'm a criminal (that's what happens when you live your own path sometimes)...but I just want to say you guys sounds awesome & I hope I can find a pair like you in Australia (or a country I am "allowed" into) - as you are just what i am looking for!!! Namaste - the light in me, honours the light in you.
Namaste - the light in me, honours the light in you!!