Thank you all for your replies. I am sorry to those affected by this nonsense. It's a touchy subject to be sure. The pat on the head, I would not have dealt with professionally. I'm confident that we can handle it, however, it is neighbors that I am most concerned about. Bowling Green, KY will most likely be our home, and with that in mind, it is a college town, so narrow mindedness should be at a minimum. I just want my partner to be safe, since she is trusting me to uproot our lives to set down roots. If anyone knows of permies in that area, I'd love to reach out to them.