Hi not sure if you found anything but you sound like a nice fit.
I read most of your wish to find some space on land that would be open to you and how you want to live your life. I just bought 30 acres in Oregon 40 minutes from Salem Oregon. We plan on building cob houses and inviting others who would like to live in community. Though there will be background checks since we do have kids and would live to invite others with kids. We have 3 kids and a few cats playing around. I have lived in collectives in the past and there won't be in any food police or polyamory rules. Just kinda artsy, down to earth people. We really wanted to find this for ourselves but got lucky and want to share the land with others. We are also open to ther building stuctures. We were thinking $400 a month at the moment. You could building your own little house or pull an rv up. There is spring and access to laundry in the house. We would ultimately like the house to be an art studio and maybe space for others to live. Anyway just trying to give a feel for ideas we have the land. Also I am vegetarian but my partner eats meat. So we are open to whatever diets that people need on their path:)
We do want this to be a communal endeavor so dinners together, meetings would be apart of this too.