Thought I'd see something neat here... maybe I did I don't know.
At the moment, there is a 27yo female with a dozen or so guys ready to do whatever she wants - in the singles section.
As someone noted - "weeding them out" right?
As long as everything is someone else's fault, nothing can ever be fixed. It's like gravity that way:
The sick don't wed the well.
Why were my passed marriages so soul-shatteringly-horrible? Because I picked them. I put myself in a position where that was the option, and I took it. I can't do anything about them, but I can try to be a better me.
I didn't see a single post - though it might be buried somewhere in there - where somebody points out the bleedingly obvious: Only decent women get decent men.
Not saying by any means that a person is "bad" - but anyone who has a list of why this or that one was bad... well, you've got a common denominator in there somewhere don't ya? So do I - and that is where my work lies.
Participate in conversations.
Drop the attitude that "there are no good men" - it is as visible as the fake color of some women's hair, and "good" men see it... and don't bother with you.
Also, there is this funny thing that some women do - yeah, you know it. That guy who is "such a good friend" who "deserves someone nice"...
And women say men can't take hints.
Oh, speaking of "hints" - you consider just, you know, using your words instead of a pretty manipulative power-play of behavioral code?
Looking for "tricks"? Yeah.... that isn't a genuine thing to do.
Plan to keep up those tricks for 20 - 60 years? Day in, day out?
Years ago they said "just be yourself" and then added all sorts of stuff that simply isn't myself. I most certainly can find "someone" - if I'm not myself. Can't keep them - and probably wouldn't want to.
Better to be alone, than with the wrong person. Lonely, difficult, and infinitely better.
I figure, when I've done enough with me, I'll either find her, or I'll die. Precarious, and true.
I would suggest doing that instead of the list of "good men" and "tricks to get them". I sure as hell don't want to be "tricked" into a sham romance. Being a plaything is.... horrible. Seriously - I don't want to be someone's wallet-sextoy again. Hurt me in ways I can't express.
Oh! And here's is the most interesting thing that I've noticed as I listen to women at large talk about dating woes:
"Men want blondes with big ..."
Not remotely. Some do, but not even half. I personally do not prefer that in the least - and no, I don't want a house slave either, or a momma.
Funny thing - I'll give you the most valuable piece of information that any genuine woman can have in finding her genuine guy!
You know what is universal among what genuine, mature men want in their mate?
I mean the kind of loyalty that Patriots in revolutions have to one another. Absolute, no exceptions, death before dishonor loyalty. Like it or not, a huge portion of women can't be relied on not to scream at their man if his hours get cut at work - and I am not exaggerating. Turn TO each other, not ON each other. Start incessant nagging about something like socks (well, HE should just pick them up!) then wonder why he's pretty sure you wouldn't stay if he broke his back... or why he doesn't feel comfortable being vulnerable with you. Again: "Well, HE should just ...." See a pattern here? Just be loyal. The kind of loyalty that underpins society. The kind that supersedes law. The kind that is worth living and dying for.
Trying to dictate another's behavior is not treating them as an equal, and is anything but loyal. You are not my arm candy, I am not your plaything, forklift, wallet, gossip-source, handbag, etc...
Huge numbers of men feel their worst enemy is their wife. Even larger numbers are flat refusing to take the risk.
No disrespect at all intended - none - I offer this honestly and as kindly as I can. Mate - LIFE PARTNER - is the one, the only one. Protests pale in the face of how many of us are alone and looking. I see it all the time: "MY kids are my world, they come first" and I can only think "Why would you do that to them? What are you going to do when they want to have an identity apart from you? When they need to leave you for their own health? How is your man going to feel playing second-fiddle for the rest of his life? Just going to demand he be ok with it? That what you wanted? A man who sits passively and lets you use him?" I have never, ever, e.v.e.r seen that perspective result in healthy kids or lasting marriages. Which is supposed to grow up and leave? Which is supposed to die with you? Ask again which is supposed to come first. Incidentally, "putting the children first" usually turns them into tedious monsters. Hell yes you put them behind your mate! Shows them what reality is, and prevents years of psychic pain as they demand the world put them first - and are completely ignored. Also does wonders with healthy discipline.
There are very few things that I will not do for a woman who owns herself, and remembers that we are supposed to die together - and acts accordingly.
Ladies - I am treating you with respect and honesty by saying this. I don't speak for men, but I know ENORMOUS numbers who... simply don't see any possible benefit to outweigh the risks.
I would think that, rationally speaking, instead of expressing disgust at men for the alarming rise in artificial women, some of you might ask "have we really become so difficult that huge numbers of men would rather build fake women?" It would certainly be self aware.
Please start building ladies again - instead of perpetuating adolescent narcissism.
And for God's sake, quit badmouthing/ridiculing/ and gossiping about your man! NOTHING kills intimacy faster.
My two cents.