I think just getting on with living as God leads is the way to go, and develop friendships first. Be yourself, don't hide the baggage, but don't put it front and center either.
Your siggy quotes Elisabeth Elliot, so you probably know she was a remarkable woman married to a guy who could be judged as a massive jerk from the way he treated her when they were dating. Which leads me nowhere apart from to say - be the remarkable woman you are. Try not to judge the jerks too badly, that's their own baggage talking. Set firm boundaries. Trust God to lead you to the right person who will accept you as you are and not either run away or try to "fix" you.