Hi Sandy,
I'm a 30yo F based in NY but able and willing to travel (NY isn't the best off grid place). In my opinion, you can YouTube anything these days

Let me know what stage you're in in the planning process.. I plan to take a mini road trip in my off grid bus but would like someplace to park it and set up a home base sometime in the near future (or when ever the time is right). Have the $ to invest in land just looking for other serious people. Don't want to end up too culty but certainly want a community. I'll add my general "about me" to my profile if you want to check it out and send me a message if you want to chat further!
Sincerely,
Lia