I don't really have a type, but here's a few qualities that I'm looking for in a person: compassionate, passionate, loves critters of all types (I'll give a pass on spiders and snakes), intelligent, curious, open with their feelings, will call me out on my bullshit, but more than anything, willing to be a partner.
As for a few of my "selling points", I love, love, love growing plants. Annuals, perennials, tropicals, natives, edibles and weird/rare shit, all of it (ask me about my cacti). I can cook like a motherfucker. I play a few instruments. I value personal growth in both knowledge and character. Not vanilla. I swear a lot, but am trying to be PG-13 here. I don't drink. I can, I choose not to. I'm an ally of all marginalized folks, POC, LGBTQIA+, and the disabled. I'm not any of those things and I refuse to budge an inch on anything short of full equality for all. For any marginalized group not mentioned, they're included.
I'm in the process of building a home out in some woodlands of West Tennessee. I've gone camping out there a few times and have been trying to get things prepped for all of the work that's going to have to be done, site clearing, basement foundation, septic installation, house building, and then forest gardening and forest management. And when I'm out there, quiet, listening to nature, I feel the most peace of mind, of heart, of soul that I could imagine a person could feel. It's hard to twang a guitar out there because it'll break the silence. You've heard of "awkward pauses", I'm looking for someone to join me in the "comfortable quiet"' where we hold hands, read our books, and only letting go of either to drink our coffee/tea.
It's funny. I've talked with a lot of people in the homesteading and permaculture community and most folks fall into one of two categories: A. Right-wing preppers, B. Left-wing hippies. Both share the view that things at large are messed up and both feel the need to remove themselves from the consumer driven culture of modern times. The point of disagreement is how we found ourselves in this mess and what can be done to fix society. I'm somewhere in the left-of-middle between the two. Truth be told, I have a lot of conservative friends and wouldn't trade them for anything. I don't want to live in an echo chamber. I like ideas, new ideas, or rather new to me.
I'd like to think that the statements above give a pretty accurate picture of how I approach things. I don't let my world view color my assessment of facts, I let the facts determine my world view.
As of now, I'm planning on it being only my kiddo and myself. Kiddo will be out of high school and probably in college and I'm not sure where they plan on being most of the time. I'd rather not have any more kiddos. If you have them I'm cool with that, but I have one and that's enough for continuing my genetic line.
That said, having the right person join me would make everything much more... everything. If we share a common world view, but differ enough to be able to help each other grow and encourage each other to strive to be better, holler at me. If not, why not, I can be good for a lark.
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