I found it took me many attempts before I felt I really had my recipe down well. Let's just say the dog didn't mind the learning curve.
You might need a few more weeks of trial and error before it comes together for you. (Pun intended.)
As for your question about whether your starter is active: Sometimes I can catch my starter in the "dome" stage some recipes call for, but what I use to determine if it is at an active level (after feeding) is to look for the presence of large and small bubbles from the yeast/bacteria eating the wheat protein. When I add ww flour to my starter and mix it in with filtered water, I see the entire top of the starter filled with bubbles. I only feed my guy once a day if I am not bulking it up for a recipe, but I add 1/4 cup ww flour at each feeding. I no longer measure my water and just pour in
enough to make a solution that is like pancake batter. Sometimes it's thicker and other times it's on the thinner side. All depends on what I intend to do with the starter when I build it up for a recipe. I bake with it at least once a week, so it sits out on my counter at ambient temp in warm weather and 68 degrees the other nine months.
When I first became interested in sourdough, I caught my own starter like you did. However, it never really took off like gangbusters. Thinking I would like something to compare to, I sent away for the dehydrated offspring of a starter that came across the Oregon Trail and has been used in the same family. Immediately after rehydrating that starter I could see it was ALIVE and then some! Needless to say, I threw away my wild starter and have been happily working with the pioneer starter ever since.