Obviously these get-togethers and events are a good thing... but I'm not sure I agree with the idea that our life partner should be a permie. I'm not sure that they even need to have heard of permaculture.
As long as they are respectful and supportive of your permie values and lifestyle, that's just fine. If they think it's kinda cool, even better.
More than that is not essential at all IMHO.
Lately, one of the famous founders of permaculture has been posting on social media pictures of mask-wearing machine-gun-weilding militants and declaring them "MY HEROES" in big letters.
I think that we can learn from this that just because someone is the world's biggest permie, it doesn't mean that they're likely to share your most basic values.
Or that they actually truly believe in the values of permaculture on a real level!
My husband of 20 years is not a permie at all. But when we were dating, he liked the fact that I wanted to stop and admire a beautiful sunset. He thought that showed I'd be the kind of person who would find satisfaction in simple things.
After we got married, it took quite a while for him to adjust to my passion for "simple things," especilaly keeping my own chickens, which grossed him out and caused a lot of conflict at first.
But his desire for me to be happy pushed him to get over it and recently he even built me a bigger chicken run!
I have also made compromises (e.g. I gave up the quails, since he could not abide their smell. I could not smell them at all, but I wanted to respect him on that and I knew it was something I could live without - unlike my darling chickens!!!)
Everyone should clarify what they most value in life and many may find that permacutlure is not at the top of list.
I would suggest:
- kindness, humility, loyalty willingness to grow and change
- wants a similar kind of family structure that you do
- has overcome challenges in life and remained positive
- takes responsiblity and doesn't blame other people or "them" for their problems
- likes and appreciates you just the way you are
This is just a short list that popped into my head.
Good luck to all in finding your soulmate!