"There is a VERY wise quote I like: The hardest thing to forgive a person for is the very quality that made you fall in love with them."
I loved it when this came up in the other thread. So glad we can expand on it. It really hit home and made sense with my current situation. I won't dive in to deep in to the details, but what was brought up was that I always was willing to help out wherever needed either in the community or at church. Helping other was the thing that made me attractive, but also the thing they hated the most. It's the thing I have dialed down the most in my life, but also has made me feel empty inside. Now I struggle with deciding what, where, & how to go about doing it again and find a happy medium. I think that is one way for us to figure out and to come to terms with our best/worst trait that makes people fall in love with us. Is to find that happy medium.